"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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a facebook observation, anyone else see this?

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the married 'friends' I have on FB and those I know but who aren't 'friends' have their own profiles. however what I am noticing more and more is that a lot the females have their own individual best pic as their profile whereas the men have a 'couple' photo on.
what is going on here?
my own take is that women cannot stop gaming, facebook/social media is a social platform and as such, women still have to, subconsciously, put it out there so to speak. Id go as far as to say she is inviting offers, seeing what is out there, this maybe just for an ego boost, attention seeking but as we all know, if the right offer comes along at the right time and the deal seems good....
if I was married and my wife was doing this, Id be a little concerned.
any thoughts?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Just checked three random facebook married couples: two both had couple pictures as their display imagine, the third is my good friend who is totally controlled by his wife. He has a couples picture, she has a picture of herself in cute yoga pants posing by some landscape.
 

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Facebook is THE biggest platform for attention *****s. One of my ex-gf's would receive messages all the time from ex bf's or guys she went to school with and sometimes just trolls who she didn't know. Even the men on facebook are as bad as the girls, taking selfies... and posting stuff 50 times a day jonesing for 'likes'... As far as couples go I have 40-50 couples on my profile and it's split pretty evenly down the middle concerning pics alone or as a couple. Same thing too I see some of the girls have sexy profile pics and the guys has one with her and the kids... Just typical AFC behavior that extends into the digital world!!!
 

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the_stig said:
Just checked three random facebook married couples: two both had couple pictures as their display imagine, the third is my good friend who is totally controlled by his wife. He has a couples picture, she has a picture of herself in cute yoga pants posing by some landscape.
I've seen it work both ways though. Sometimes the guy puts up picture of him and his wife/girlfriend as a front. So it looks like they're this nice happy couple and makes her feel all warm and fuzzy inside.....meanwhile he's off banging away.....
 

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Peaks&Valleys said:
I've seen it work both ways though. Sometimes the guy puts up picture of him and his wife/girlfriend as a front. So it looks like they're this nice happy couple and makes her feel all warm and fuzzy inside.....meanwhile he's off banging away.....

I agree but I would say that for the most part ie. 90% of most relationships on FB, the guys are pu$$ywh!ipd and the girl is looking to spin some plates on her own.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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sylvester the cat

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HyperAnalyze said:
I agree but I would say that for the most part ie. 90% of most relationships on FB, the guys are pu$$ywh!ipd and the girl is looking to spin some plates on her own.
90%?

And we came to this conclusion based on which statistical evidence? or did you mean 90% of people you know?
 

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sylvester the cat said:
90%?

And we came to this conclusion based on which statistical evidence? or did you mean 90% of people you know?

Ah... People I know... People I know... lol
 

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The sooner you delete your FB the happier you will be. I did it in April and I haven't looked back. FB doesn't work for guys unless you're famous.
 

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Danger said:
I see a similar dynamic.....

But more along the lines of, every mother in a family has endless pics of her child, but next to nothing of her husband....if any pics at all.

The worse is the Single mothers....It's endless pics and vids
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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