"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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a facebook observation, anyone else see this?

betheman

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the married 'friends' I have on FB and those I know but who aren't 'friends' have their own profiles. however what I am noticing more and more is that a lot the females have their own individual best pic as their profile whereas the men have a 'couple' photo on.
what is going on here?
my own take is that women cannot stop gaming, facebook/social media is a social platform and as such, women still have to, subconsciously, put it out there so to speak. Id go as far as to say she is inviting offers, seeing what is out there, this maybe just for an ego boost, attention seeking but as we all know, if the right offer comes along at the right time and the deal seems good....
if I was married and my wife was doing this, Id be a little concerned.
any thoughts?
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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the_stig

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Just checked three random facebook married couples: two both had couple pictures as their display imagine, the third is my good friend who is totally controlled by his wife. He has a couples picture, she has a picture of herself in cute yoga pants posing by some landscape.
 

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Facebook is THE biggest platform for attention *****s. One of my ex-gf's would receive messages all the time from ex bf's or guys she went to school with and sometimes just trolls who she didn't know. Even the men on facebook are as bad as the girls, taking selfies... and posting stuff 50 times a day jonesing for 'likes'... As far as couples go I have 40-50 couples on my profile and it's split pretty evenly down the middle concerning pics alone or as a couple. Same thing too I see some of the girls have sexy profile pics and the guys has one with her and the kids... Just typical AFC behavior that extends into the digital world!!!
 

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the_stig said:
Just checked three random facebook married couples: two both had couple pictures as their display imagine, the third is my good friend who is totally controlled by his wife. He has a couples picture, she has a picture of herself in cute yoga pants posing by some landscape.
I've seen it work both ways though. Sometimes the guy puts up picture of him and his wife/girlfriend as a front. So it looks like they're this nice happy couple and makes her feel all warm and fuzzy inside.....meanwhile he's off banging away.....
 

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Peaks&Valleys said:
I've seen it work both ways though. Sometimes the guy puts up picture of him and his wife/girlfriend as a front. So it looks like they're this nice happy couple and makes her feel all warm and fuzzy inside.....meanwhile he's off banging away.....

I agree but I would say that for the most part ie. 90% of most relationships on FB, the guys are pu$$ywh!ipd and the girl is looking to spin some plates on her own.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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HyperAnalyze said:
I agree but I would say that for the most part ie. 90% of most relationships on FB, the guys are pu$$ywh!ipd and the girl is looking to spin some plates on her own.
90%?

And we came to this conclusion based on which statistical evidence? or did you mean 90% of people you know?
 

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sylvester the cat said:
90%?

And we came to this conclusion based on which statistical evidence? or did you mean 90% of people you know?

Ah... People I know... People I know... lol
 

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The sooner you delete your FB the happier you will be. I did it in April and I haven't looked back. FB doesn't work for guys unless you're famous.
 

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Danger said:
I see a similar dynamic.....

But more along the lines of, every mother in a family has endless pics of her child, but next to nothing of her husband....if any pics at all.

The worse is the Single mothers....It's endless pics and vids
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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