"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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A Divorce Attorney's Thoughts On Love and Marriage:

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Silly analogy. Having married parents is a lot more meaningful to a child’s life than choice of breakfast.
Meaningful is a statement of comparison, they only have their peers to compare to anyways and that's always gonna be a "Grass is greener".

Lots of people successfully raise children out of wedlock, I'm sure many don't as well, also let's not pretend the divorce rate is under 50% or something. Even when people say "We stay married for the kids" that describes a *change in circumstance* something that would never happen in the first place, I view a change in circumstance as more impactful than not, obviously outright father absence is incredibly harmful but that's not what we're even talking about.

Even if you are married, you go to work, kids have schedules, some parents are married and don't even see their kids much in the first place. This has so much more to do with the individual than some legal status.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Lots of people successfully raise children out of wedlock, I'm sure many don't as well, also let's not pretend the divorce rate is under 50% or something.
You are arguing for an exception for the norm. Children generally do better coming from a nuclear family, with both parents married under the same roof. It’s just statistical fact. You can find exceptions, but it still doesn’t change the fact.

And you are trying to argue that parents don’t have to be married. Unfortunately, children know the truth. Daddy doesn’t think mommy is good enough to be a wife. And good luck finding a decent woman to play house with, have your kids, and accept you not marrying her. If I had a daughter I’d advise her to not have his baby nor to shack up. That’s trash tbh.
 

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Finally caught the rest of the video. Impressed! In the last 10 minutes of the video or so, he did indicate that there were some divorced women out there that would be considered good catches as divorced, single moms but also acknowledged that a lot of men see divorced, single moms as damaged goods.
 

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To answer the question whether to marry or not, let's ask ourself how many successful men out there achieved that success without being married along the way

Business
Sports
Entertainment
Consult the wealthiest men list and find out how many people achieved that while being unmarried

The wise always ponder on whatever they hear and see.

"If you want to go fast go alone, but if you want to go far, go together" Think about that before you jump to conclusions.

Moreover if you believe everything you hear or read, then you better don't shut yourself out of media."

Go sit with any person above 70yrs and learn life's wisdom.
They will never tell you not to marry. They will always say "Choose wisely".
 

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Moreover if you believe everything you hear or read, then you better don't shut yourself out of media."
Read this as "If you believe everything you read or hear then you better shut the media out of your life"
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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