Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
well said.floydb25 said:Definitely *****es. Remember, women can be jerks and haters, too. They believe you're not good enough to act this way, because they're delusional and believe their opinion matters. Don't ever try to gain the approval of, or prove your worth to someone who's against you. Nor should you let their opinion affect you in any way. They aren't some royal judge; **** what they think. Don't let them push you around like this, either - because female bullies also exist. Certainly don't act nice to them. If they keep at it - fight back, and tell them to **** off.
Generally, this type of shallow / retarded person will judge and criticize you, try to bring you down, nitpick your flaws, and reject your looks at all costs - because that's all they care about. Notice their shallow remarks towards you. That's because they believe superficiality determines quality. They can't judge your personality, because they don't have one. So, they say you're ugly, a virgin, don't have a girlfriend, have a small ****, etc. Just like any other insecure jerk does. They judge the pointless ****, because they're losers. Losers need to feel special, so they latch onto the only thing they're good at (ie, being shallow and retarded), and judge people based on this criteria. They don't even have to know the person - they still spout off their opinion, and judge everyone - like anyone gives a ****.
Always remember that they're worthless and irrelevant. Likely miserable, riddled with low self-esteem, and horribly insecure; trying to feel better about themselves by bringing other people down. Like an annoying fly; just swat them away (metaphorically), and avoid them.
Women should be classified as people. That might fix a lot of these problems. Just like there's ****face ******* guys out there - there are women like this, too. Some might suggest they're trying to be men - when they're just being people. Losers are not gender based. But they're opinion still doesn't matter - even though they think it does, and never shut the **** up about them.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
when they say something like that, i always go:Toast123 said:What does that even mean? I NEVER talk about my opinion of my own looks....how is it even possible to act like you think you're good looking?
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.