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A couple of girls tell me "You act better looking than you are"....what?

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What does that even mean? I NEVER talk about my opinion of my own looks....how is it even possible to act like you think you're good looking?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

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Sn!t test. Tell them you are not a woman to act in accordance with the way you look.
 
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They're being condescending to you.

When women say that want a confident man, that want a good looking confident man. (As a general rule, add "good looking" to everything she says she wants in a guy lol.)

For whatever reason, you aren't their physical type. But you are quite confident, maybe even a bit ****y/arrogant around them. It's not what they expect. They are brainwashed to believe that only HOT guys have the right to be that confident/****y.

You're not doing anything wrong. Keep that confidence, even if you are a bit ****y. (Just never brag about your skill or exploits with the ladies. A true player keeps his mouth shut about that.)

These girls are just being b$tches and talking down to you. Don't let it phase you.
 

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yup bishes. treat them accordingly. i've never had girls be that condescending towards me but then, i avoid bishes.

don't let it get to you.
 

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Yeah, realize that good looks are what make or break you in certain scenarios.

If you compliment a girl at work and she's attracted to you, it's flirting. If she's not attracted to you, it's sexual harassment and you're a creeper.

If she's attracted to you and you and think highly of yourself, you're confident. If she's not attracted to you, you're ****y.
 

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This is the "old world" belief that if you aren't good looking enough you are to hang your head in shame and slouch when you walk etc. I personally think it takes women down a peg or two when i approach cause afterward she's thinking "how could he possibly think i'm on his level?" *runs home and checks mirror* I think ugly people should talk to hotties more often just to get them thinking they aren't so hot after all
 

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Definitely *****es. Remember, women can be jerks and haters, too. They believe you're not good enough to act this way, because they're delusional and believe their opinion matters. Don't ever try to gain the approval of, or prove your worth to someone who's against you. Nor should you let their opinion affect you in any way. They aren't some royal judge; **** what they think. Don't let them push you around like this, either - because female bullies also exist. Certainly don't act nice to them. If they keep at it - fight back, and tell them to **** off.

Generally, this type of shallow / retarded person will judge and criticize you, try to bring you down, nitpick your flaws, and reject your looks at all costs - because that's all they care about. Notice their shallow remarks towards you. That's because they believe superficiality determines quality. They can't judge your personality, because they don't have one. So, they say you're ugly, a virgin, don't have a girlfriend, have a small ****, etc. Just like any other insecure jerk does. They judge the pointless ****, because they're losers. Losers need to feel special, so they latch onto the only thing they're good at (ie, being shallow and retarded), and judge people based on this criteria. They don't even have to know the person - they still spout off their opinion, and judge everyone - like anyone gives a ****.

Always remember that they're worthless and irrelevant. Likely miserable, riddled with low self-esteem, and horribly insecure; trying to feel better about themselves by bringing other people down. Like an annoying fly; just swat them away (metaphorically), and avoid them.

Women should be classified as people. That might fix a lot of these problems. Just like there's ****face ******* guys out there - there are women like this, too. Some might suggest they're trying to be men - when they're just being people. Losers are not gender based. But they're opinion still doesn't matter - even though they think it does, and never shut the **** up about them.
 

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Were you in a place or setting where you couldnt say "Ok *****, if you say so?" Whatever way you were acting was 100% correct dont change a thing.
 

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Yes the phrase "Your Actions Bely Your Looks" is a phrase that has been told to me as well. It means that the way you act is far exceeding what people expect of you because of how you look and the unfortunate hard truth is that this is a turn off for a lot of people.

If your like me you will also have people telling you that you are trying to be something your not....because you are acting confident, ****y and flirty when people expect you to act like an insecure quiet person because you are not attractive.

People want attractive people talking to them, not unnattractive people.
 

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floydb25 said:
Definitely *****es. Remember, women can be jerks and haters, too. They believe you're not good enough to act this way, because they're delusional and believe their opinion matters. Don't ever try to gain the approval of, or prove your worth to someone who's against you. Nor should you let their opinion affect you in any way. They aren't some royal judge; **** what they think. Don't let them push you around like this, either - because female bullies also exist. Certainly don't act nice to them. If they keep at it - fight back, and tell them to **** off.

Generally, this type of shallow / retarded person will judge and criticize you, try to bring you down, nitpick your flaws, and reject your looks at all costs - because that's all they care about. Notice their shallow remarks towards you. That's because they believe superficiality determines quality. They can't judge your personality, because they don't have one. So, they say you're ugly, a virgin, don't have a girlfriend, have a small ****, etc. Just like any other insecure jerk does. They judge the pointless ****, because they're losers. Losers need to feel special, so they latch onto the only thing they're good at (ie, being shallow and retarded), and judge people based on this criteria. They don't even have to know the person - they still spout off their opinion, and judge everyone - like anyone gives a ****.

Always remember that they're worthless and irrelevant. Likely miserable, riddled with low self-esteem, and horribly insecure; trying to feel better about themselves by bringing other people down. Like an annoying fly; just swat them away (metaphorically), and avoid them.

Women should be classified as people. That might fix a lot of these problems. Just like there's ****face ******* guys out there - there are women like this, too. Some might suggest they're trying to be men - when they're just being people. Losers are not gender based. But they're opinion still doesn't matter - even though they think it does, and never shut the **** up about them.
well said.

we live in the age of the SUPERFICIAL LOSER DO NOTHING

this creature may be a man, a woman, even a faggot...these creatures are fond of spending their spare hours on facebook and twitter trading inane banter and worthless opinion...they love to shop spending money they don't have, maxing out their credit cards..useless women who cannot cook nor clean....in an earlier age they would be captured by viking traders and sold as sex slaves in constantinople (seriously they would read up)

but don't worry in the economic crash that is to come this SUPERFICIAL LOSER DO NOTHING will quickly starve to death (unless she once again becomes a sex slave) so never under any circumstances listen to them...do your thing, read books, history, the greeks etc, broaden your mind, hit on anything that moves, fvck anything that moves...

only you control what you let into your mind.
 

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It's rather hilarious how some chicks will attempt to bash a dude for not being up to 'par' in their whacked out minds...yet you've got uggs and whales running around who think they're the hottest thing out there and want dudes to just 'take them as they are'!

chicks like that are hopelessly brainwashed and reality will make them bitter used up waste products in the end.
 

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Toast123 said:
What does that even mean? I NEVER talk about my opinion of my own looks....how is it even possible to act like you think you're good looking?
when they say something like that, i always go:
"oh really?? well you have a ton of make up when going to the prom...now tell me about how YOU ARE in a position to lecture me??"

dont pay attention and act the way you want...they are just testing
 

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No one seems to be stating the obvious:
If you follow pickup advice and walk around like you're a 10 but you're really a 4 or 5, that can create some incongruence.

Not that this is necessarily a bad thing, but the OP's calibration may be off. Maybe a little less c0cky/funny swag, and a little more friendly social cool guy.
 

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"If you follow pickup advice and walk around like you're a 10 but you're really a 4 or 5, that can create some incongruence."

Well I'm definitly not a 4 or 5, I've had attractive girlfriends in the past and often get a few compliments (though for some reason most of my compliments come from guys...)

I'm fairly sure I'm considered a good looking chap, though I never verbalise this...especially around game....I mean what's the point?

Just I was a bit shocked when this girl started saying this to me....out of nowhere...I or anyone else in the vincinity hadn't brought it up until then....was just weird.
 

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Anytime I read stuff like this I have the confirmation that women are much more racist than men, you see men would use derogatory language or make jokes about fat people or gays but they dont have the same hatred and blame that women have for guys who according to them are of an "inferiori" stock.

According to many women, average ot low guys are not even considered as humans with dignity or feelings, they would humiliate themselves in any possible way for a top guy or a rock star, but near normal to low guys or ugly guys most of them have no problem or sense of guilt to treat them as non person, uncaring of their feelings or conseguences.

I hardly think there are guys who out of nowhere start bash some fat girl who behave "above her limit", most would simply make some joke with friends silently but none would strike as hard to her just to get an ego boost or release some anger.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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There's always the chance that they actually want you and are saying it in a roundabout way. Maybe they're warming to you slowly.....they originally weren't attracted to you but are slowly turning.
 

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Some mediocre advice about looks etc given here so far. It's probably something closer to the idea that the women can sense ur trying to act confident (as opposed to actually being confident). The women can sense that ur trying to be a cool guy, but ur not actually a cool guy (not yet anyway).

Because they can sense this (often referred to as 'incogruence' in the community & in psychology), they're sh*t testing you, and ur probably failing.

Keep on ur path, keep improving, continue working and getting better at game and all areas of ur life, and the confidence will be more congruent, and u'll get less of this crap, and when u get it u wont even notice and u'll pass any sh*t tests without even noticing
 

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I think It was Meant As A Compliment...

I think what they were saying was that you act as if you are da man. Maybe you don't bend over backwards to please women,regardless of how pretty they are. You know that women don't always think before they speak.
 
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