"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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90 day no fap journal.

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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DJ Bax said:
Nope not watching any of that kind of stuff. If your not here to help me accomplish my goal or to give me an update on your progress with no fap then get the hell out.
Very poor manners.

Fatal Jay said:
No, not at all

but porn mixed with fapping is.
Would you be kind enough to explain how my body can tell the difference between porn and looking at a naked girl, or between masturbation and coitus?
 

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It's your brain

if you start to have a porn addiction, your brain will not respond to whenever your around a real women, that's why a lot of guys penis won't get erect, because the amount of porn they watch.

See with porn you can switch to different types of porn under an hour, which is not like reality, your brain uses up a lot of endorphins when your watching all that porn, but your endorphins never flare when your with that one woman/one situation.

A lot of young and old guys have ed based upon porn addiction. Can it be undone, yes ed can be cured. But it comes with a price

you will have to go 3 to 5 months with no porn no fapping at all if you want your brain to return to normal. To be honest, you must rid yourself of porn forever.
 

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It's probably a bad idea to call that "erectile dysfunction." (1) As they age, men have reduced response and require greater sensory stimulation. Every 20-something man becomes aware that he has far less arousal than he did in his mid-teens. (2) A man who masturbates is satisfying his sexual desire as if he had a woman, which makes him unenthusiastic / less energetic about courtship. Again, this is normal and well known.

The world is a series of simple truths. There's no reason to embellish them. Men court and mate with women because they are instinctively driven to do so. Masturbation is self-consolation for failure, little different from an infant sucking his thumb when he can't get the tit. Most men grow out of the need to self-console, or replace it healthily with coitus. So I just don't see the need to grasp at straws about how masturbation makes one go blind, or the like.
 

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Then keep doing it lol. Anyways im on Day 18 of no fap.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Fatal Jay said:
Damn brah 8 days? You need to stay busy, you must don't work?
I dont know about OP, but after a long day at work I usually feel like rubbing one out quickly
 

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I apologize eternal water, I thought that was an attempt at trolling I didn't bother clicking on the links. But no I plan on staying away from any type of stimulation other than a real female.

Down low it probably was poor manners, but I'm self interested and I thought he was trolling.

For me masturbation isn't even just admitting defeat that I can't get a girl its just a way to get off quickly (3-5 min.)

The main reason that I am doing this is because the last two girls I attempted to have sex with I couldn't get a good 100% boner, I could get stiff but not hard enough to really be effective. During this time I was probably spending 2-3 hours a week watching porn and I was watching several different kinds of porn. Then I began researching it and I'm pretty sure that porn was my problem. So no I'm not done masturbation for forever, but I am done with porn.
 

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I recently ended my run at 86 days on Saturday. Not very hard at all. It helps having brand new women blowing up my phone begging to see ME.
 

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That is part of the problem, I haven't had a plate in like 3 months lol.
 

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bmxcetera said:
I recently ended my run at 86 days on Saturday. Not very hard at all. It helps having brand new women blowing up my phone begging to see ME.

your run didn't end if you had sex, it only ended if you fapped or fapped while watching porn.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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DJ Bax said:
That is part of the problem, I haven't had a plate in like 3 months lol.
No fap + no plates = disaster lol. For me I was wound up tighter than a slinky. Hard cardio helps relieves any temptation if you get any. Interesting log man I'll be following.
 

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Day 20, cardio helps a ton. Get those endorphins popping, instead of them poppin from porn.
 

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Cut all sources of protein, meats, nuts ( that includes soy sauce, spicy foods, garlic and onions. If you can't cut them out complete reduce them as much as possible. I read somewhere animals protein especially can bring sexual urges.

Also if want to fap take a cold shower rinse for at least 60 seconds (do not use hot water you can the beginning though) it always help me if I have the urge.
 

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Thanks for the support guys, I'm currently trying to pass a drug test so I have been killing water and running a lot for the past two weeks. I agree, cardio helps a lot! I'm only on day 4 again but I feel like each night I go without is an accomplishment, time is just going really slow it seems like. I work out every couple of weeks however so I'm still eating as much protein as I can on a limited diet. In the past year of learning about being a don and improving myself I have never actually taken a day out to go 'sarging'. Recently I have been reading 'The Game' by Neil Strauss and it has motivated me to the point that I'm planning on going to the local outlet mall this week and trying to get some numbers. I naturally have pretty good confidence so I should have some plates in no time. Once again, thanks for the support.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Pass drug test = go crazy on cranberry, grapefruit, pomegranite, antioxidants.
 

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I last smoked weed 22 days ago, since that time I have been running like crazy and killing water. I feel like it's out of my system. To be honest I love weed but it was holding me back. However I plan on smoking like Willy Nelson when I eventually retire.
 

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Just an update on if I am actually seeing any results or anything. Basically I'm horny as 4uck, I'm normally a confident person and recently it has been out the freaking roof. I attempted approaching a girl at work today that was visiting her grandparents but she said she was a senior in high school still and she wasn't very receptive.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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