Eternal_water
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genuine question
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
90 day no fap journal.
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Fatal Jay
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It's your brain
if you start to have a porn addiction, your brain will not respond to whenever your around a real women, that's why a lot of guys penis won't get erect, because the amount of porn they watch.
See with porn you can switch to different types of porn under an hour, which is not like reality, your brain uses up a lot of endorphins when your watching all that porn, but your endorphins never flare when your with that one woman/one situation.
A lot of young and old guys have ed based upon porn addiction. Can it be undone, yes ed can be cured. But it comes with a price
you will have to go 3 to 5 months with no porn no fapping at all if you want your brain to return to normal. To be honest, you must rid yourself of porn forever.
It's your brain
if you start to have a porn addiction, your brain will not respond to whenever your around a real women, that's why a lot of guys penis won't get erect, because the amount of porn they watch.
See with porn you can switch to different types of porn under an hour, which is not like reality, your brain uses up a lot of endorphins when your watching all that porn, but your endorphins never flare when your with that one woman/one situation.
A lot of young and old guys have ed based upon porn addiction. Can it be undone, yes ed can be cured. But it comes with a price
you will have to go 3 to 5 months with no porn no fapping at all if you want your brain to return to normal. To be honest, you must rid yourself of porn forever.
It's probably a bad idea to call that "erectile dysfunction." (1) As they age, men have reduced response and require greater sensory stimulation. Every 20-something man becomes aware that he has far less arousal than he did in his mid-teens. (2) A man who masturbates is satisfying his sexual desire as if he had a woman, which makes him unenthusiastic / less energetic about courtship. Again, this is normal and well known.
The world is a series of simple truths. There's no reason to embellish them. Men court and mate with women because they are instinctively driven to do so. Masturbation is self-consolation for failure, little different from an infant sucking his thumb when he can't get the tit. Most men grow out of the need to self-console, or replace it healthily with coitus. So I just don't see the need to grasp at straws about how masturbation makes one go blind, or the like.
The world is a series of simple truths. There's no reason to embellish them. Men court and mate with women because they are instinctively driven to do so. Masturbation is self-consolation for failure, little different from an infant sucking his thumb when he can't get the tit. Most men grow out of the need to self-console, or replace it healthily with coitus. So I just don't see the need to grasp at straws about how masturbation makes one go blind, or the like.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
SpazzAttackk
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I dont know about OP, but after a long day at work I usually feel like rubbing one out quicklyFatal Jay said:
I apologize eternal water, I thought that was an attempt at trolling I didn't bother clicking on the links. But no I plan on staying away from any type of stimulation other than a real female.
Down low it probably was poor manners, but I'm self interested and I thought he was trolling.
For me masturbation isn't even just admitting defeat that I can't get a girl its just a way to get off quickly (3-5 min.)
The main reason that I am doing this is because the last two girls I attempted to have sex with I couldn't get a good 100% boner, I could get stiff but not hard enough to really be effective. During this time I was probably spending 2-3 hours a week watching porn and I was watching several different kinds of porn. Then I began researching it and I'm pretty sure that porn was my problem. So no I'm not done masturbation for forever, but I am done with porn.
Down low it probably was poor manners, but I'm self interested and I thought he was trolling.
For me masturbation isn't even just admitting defeat that I can't get a girl its just a way to get off quickly (3-5 min.)
The main reason that I am doing this is because the last two girls I attempted to have sex with I couldn't get a good 100% boner, I could get stiff but not hard enough to really be effective. During this time I was probably spending 2-3 hours a week watching porn and I was watching several different kinds of porn. Then I began researching it and I'm pretty sure that porn was my problem. So no I'm not done masturbation for forever, but I am done with porn.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
JohnChops
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No fap + no plates = disaster lol. For me I was wound up tighter than a slinky. Hard cardio helps relieves any temptation if you get any. Interesting log man I'll be following.DJ Bax said:
Ufcrocks1969
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Cut all sources of protein, meats, nuts ( that includes soy sauce, spicy foods, garlic and onions. If you can't cut them out complete reduce them as much as possible. I read somewhere animals protein especially can bring sexual urges.
Also if want to fap take a cold shower rinse for at least 60 seconds (do not use hot water you can the beginning though) it always help me if I have the urge.
Also if want to fap take a cold shower rinse for at least 60 seconds (do not use hot water you can the beginning though) it always help me if I have the urge.
Ufcrocks1969
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http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wSF82AwSDiU
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XPD7D67l2ew
Some interesting facts I never knew.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XPD7D67l2ew
Some interesting facts I never knew.
Thanks for the support guys, I'm currently trying to pass a drug test so I have been killing water and running a lot for the past two weeks. I agree, cardio helps a lot! I'm only on day 4 again but I feel like each night I go without is an accomplishment, time is just going really slow it seems like. I work out every couple of weeks however so I'm still eating as much protein as I can on a limited diet. In the past year of learning about being a don and improving myself I have never actually taken a day out to go 'sarging'. Recently I have been reading 'The Game' by Neil Strauss and it has motivated me to the point that I'm planning on going to the local outlet mall this week and trying to get some numbers. I naturally have pretty good confidence so I should have some plates in no time. Once again, thanks for the support.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
DanZy
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Worst advice everUfcrocks1969 said:
I last smoked weed 22 days ago, since that time I have been running like crazy and killing water. I feel like it's out of my system. To be honest I love weed but it was holding me back. However I plan on smoking like Willy Nelson when I eventually retire.
Just an update on if I am actually seeing any results or anything. Basically I'm horny as 4uck, I'm normally a confident person and recently it has been out the freaking roof. I attempted approaching a girl at work today that was visiting her grandparents but she said she was a senior in high school still and she wasn't very receptive.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.