SamTheHobit
Master Don Juan
Just wondering who has finished the 60 day no contact challenge and if it worked for you?
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
60 no contact challenge question
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
loveshogun
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Define the phrase "worked for you." How are you measuring your success?
I broke up with my most recent ex last March and we fooled around til September. Then I went on vacation, haven't spoken to her since.
But, that's because I don't want to.
For me, it's not about "winning" or "losing." I do what I want - that includes not talking to her. This isn't some strategy to "get her back" or "reassert dominance" or any of that crap. It was just me moving on to other things.
Think about what you're trying to do, and I think you can answer the question yourself.
I broke up with my most recent ex last March and we fooled around til September. Then I went on vacation, haven't spoken to her since.
But, that's because I don't want to.
For me, it's not about "winning" or "losing." I do what I want - that includes not talking to her. This isn't some strategy to "get her back" or "reassert dominance" or any of that crap. It was just me moving on to other things.
Think about what you're trying to do, and I think you can answer the question yourself.
European-DJ
Master Don Juan
I Did .. and yes, it definatly worked for me..
I remember when i started this forum, after a month, me and my GF (1½yrs) broke up, i was soo pathetic and .. well i was just broken ...
- Today i don't even think about her, actually, this topic reminded me of her, but it does not hurt anymore
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I remember when i started this forum, after a month, me and my GF (1½yrs) broke up, i was soo pathetic and .. well i was just broken ...
- Today i don't even think about her, actually, this topic reminded me of her, but it does not hurt anymore
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SamTheHobit
Master Don Juan
well it s been 3 weeks no contact and every day i think about her and i just want that feeling of nostolgia gone its killing me, some days I contemplate if I should just try working things out but i know that would be a mistake, and other days i want to go vandalize her house. I just want these feelings to go away.loveshogun said:
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
loveshogun
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You now have plenty of time to work on the things you want to do in life, not to mention that you're young as hell. Shoot, I'M young as hell. But I work 40 hours a week, dance 12-15 hours a week, write 8 hours a week, and party the rest of the time. Cause I want to.SamTheHobit said:
If you give yourself time to think about unimportant things, you will think about unimportant things.