SamTheHobit
Master Don Juan
Just wondering who has finished the 60 day no contact challenge and if it worked for you?
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
60 no contact challenge question
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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
loveshogun
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Define the phrase "worked for you." How are you measuring your success?
I broke up with my most recent ex last March and we fooled around til September. Then I went on vacation, haven't spoken to her since.
But, that's because I don't want to.
For me, it's not about "winning" or "losing." I do what I want - that includes not talking to her. This isn't some strategy to "get her back" or "reassert dominance" or any of that crap. It was just me moving on to other things.
Think about what you're trying to do, and I think you can answer the question yourself.
I broke up with my most recent ex last March and we fooled around til September. Then I went on vacation, haven't spoken to her since.
But, that's because I don't want to.
For me, it's not about "winning" or "losing." I do what I want - that includes not talking to her. This isn't some strategy to "get her back" or "reassert dominance" or any of that crap. It was just me moving on to other things.
Think about what you're trying to do, and I think you can answer the question yourself.
European-DJ
Master Don Juan
I Did .. and yes, it definatly worked for me..
I remember when i started this forum, after a month, me and my GF (1½yrs) broke up, i was soo pathetic and .. well i was just broken ...
- Today i don't even think about her, actually, this topic reminded me of her, but it does not hurt anymore
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I remember when i started this forum, after a month, me and my GF (1½yrs) broke up, i was soo pathetic and .. well i was just broken ...
- Today i don't even think about her, actually, this topic reminded me of her, but it does not hurt anymore
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SamTheHobit
Master Don Juan
well it s been 3 weeks no contact and every day i think about her and i just want that feeling of nostolgia gone its killing me, some days I contemplate if I should just try working things out but i know that would be a mistake, and other days i want to go vandalize her house. I just want these feelings to go away.loveshogun said:
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
loveshogun
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You now have plenty of time to work on the things you want to do in life, not to mention that you're young as hell. Shoot, I'M young as hell. But I work 40 hours a week, dance 12-15 hours a week, write 8 hours a week, and party the rest of the time. Cause I want to.SamTheHobit said:
If you give yourself time to think about unimportant things, you will think about unimportant things.