SamTheHobit
Master Don Juan
Just wondering who has finished the 60 day no contact challenge and if it worked for you?
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
60 no contact challenge question
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
loveshogun
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Define the phrase "worked for you." How are you measuring your success?
I broke up with my most recent ex last March and we fooled around til September. Then I went on vacation, haven't spoken to her since.
But, that's because I don't want to.
For me, it's not about "winning" or "losing." I do what I want - that includes not talking to her. This isn't some strategy to "get her back" or "reassert dominance" or any of that crap. It was just me moving on to other things.
Think about what you're trying to do, and I think you can answer the question yourself.
I broke up with my most recent ex last March and we fooled around til September. Then I went on vacation, haven't spoken to her since.
But, that's because I don't want to.
For me, it's not about "winning" or "losing." I do what I want - that includes not talking to her. This isn't some strategy to "get her back" or "reassert dominance" or any of that crap. It was just me moving on to other things.
Think about what you're trying to do, and I think you can answer the question yourself.
European-DJ
Master Don Juan
I Did .. and yes, it definatly worked for me..
I remember when i started this forum, after a month, me and my GF (1½yrs) broke up, i was soo pathetic and .. well i was just broken ...
- Today i don't even think about her, actually, this topic reminded me of her, but it does not hurt anymore
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I remember when i started this forum, after a month, me and my GF (1½yrs) broke up, i was soo pathetic and .. well i was just broken ...
- Today i don't even think about her, actually, this topic reminded me of her, but it does not hurt anymore
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SamTheHobit
Master Don Juan
well it s been 3 weeks no contact and every day i think about her and i just want that feeling of nostolgia gone its killing me, some days I contemplate if I should just try working things out but i know that would be a mistake, and other days i want to go vandalize her house. I just want these feelings to go away.loveshogun said:
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
loveshogun
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You now have plenty of time to work on the things you want to do in life, not to mention that you're young as hell. Shoot, I'M young as hell. But I work 40 hours a week, dance 12-15 hours a week, write 8 hours a week, and party the rest of the time. Cause I want to.SamTheHobit said:
If you give yourself time to think about unimportant things, you will think about unimportant things.