SamTheHobit
Master Don Juan
Just wondering who has finished the 60 day no contact challenge and if it worked for you?
Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
60 no contact challenge question
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
loveshogun
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Define the phrase "worked for you." How are you measuring your success?
I broke up with my most recent ex last March and we fooled around til September. Then I went on vacation, haven't spoken to her since.
But, that's because I don't want to.
For me, it's not about "winning" or "losing." I do what I want - that includes not talking to her. This isn't some strategy to "get her back" or "reassert dominance" or any of that crap. It was just me moving on to other things.
Think about what you're trying to do, and I think you can answer the question yourself.
I broke up with my most recent ex last March and we fooled around til September. Then I went on vacation, haven't spoken to her since.
But, that's because I don't want to.
For me, it's not about "winning" or "losing." I do what I want - that includes not talking to her. This isn't some strategy to "get her back" or "reassert dominance" or any of that crap. It was just me moving on to other things.
Think about what you're trying to do, and I think you can answer the question yourself.
European-DJ
Master Don Juan
I Did .. and yes, it definatly worked for me..
I remember when i started this forum, after a month, me and my GF (1½yrs) broke up, i was soo pathetic and .. well i was just broken ...
- Today i don't even think about her, actually, this topic reminded me of her, but it does not hurt anymore
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I remember when i started this forum, after a month, me and my GF (1½yrs) broke up, i was soo pathetic and .. well i was just broken ...
- Today i don't even think about her, actually, this topic reminded me of her, but it does not hurt anymore
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SamTheHobit
Master Don Juan
well it s been 3 weeks no contact and every day i think about her and i just want that feeling of nostolgia gone its killing me, some days I contemplate if I should just try working things out but i know that would be a mistake, and other days i want to go vandalize her house. I just want these feelings to go away.loveshogun said:
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
loveshogun
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You now have plenty of time to work on the things you want to do in life, not to mention that you're young as hell. Shoot, I'M young as hell. But I work 40 hours a week, dance 12-15 hours a week, write 8 hours a week, and party the rest of the time. Cause I want to.SamTheHobit said:
If you give yourself time to think about unimportant things, you will think about unimportant things.