Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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5 Ways Exclusive Relationships Are Better Than Spinning Plates

zekko

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Fertility
Last thing I want is children. But we are still attracted to signs of fertility, that's just nature.

Agree that ultimately you have to be better than other guys. It's a competitive world, like it or not.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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A man wants, in regard to women, three things:

1) Quality
2) Fertility
3) Loyalty

#3 is tough to come by when you have girls with both #1 and #2. But remember: if women were more faithful, they'd be faithful to the last guy and you'd have no chance, so it swings both ways. You ultimately need to be better than the other guys.
Corrected.
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I doubt, that on paper, I can really be better than compete with most.... age, finances, height etc. If I can not compete there, in the more easily quantifiable things, I can compete in terms of my own 'quality', in the more subjective sphere, by being better. Talking to women friends I know, they put personal qualities high on their list. But of course these are mature women, not scatter-brained girls.
 
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A man wants three things:

1) Quality
2) Fertility
3) Loyalty

#3 is tough to come by when you have girls with both #1 and #2. But remember: if women were more faithful, they'd be faithful to the last guy and you'd have no chance, so it swings both ways. You ultimately need to be better than the other guys.
I think it's fertility that comes first, then quality, then loyalty. Because what's the first thing you notice in a woman? Her looks. Thats what initially attracts you to her in the first place.
 
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I think it's fertility that comes first, then quality, theb loyalty. Because what's the first thing you notice in a woman? Her looks. Thats what initially attracts you to her in the first place.
Yes, good point. These were in no particular order, thanks.

Loyalty must come last though, because it can't come until after you achieve her quality and fertility.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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