"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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5 Ways Exclusive Relationships Are Better Than Spinning Plates

zekko

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Fertility
Last thing I want is children. But we are still attracted to signs of fertility, that's just nature.

Agree that ultimately you have to be better than other guys. It's a competitive world, like it or not.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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ChristopherColumbus

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A man wants, in regard to women, three things:

1) Quality
2) Fertility
3) Loyalty

#3 is tough to come by when you have girls with both #1 and #2. But remember: if women were more faithful, they'd be faithful to the last guy and you'd have no chance, so it swings both ways. You ultimately need to be better than the other guys.
Corrected.
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I doubt, that on paper, I can really be better than compete with most.... age, finances, height etc. If I can not compete there, in the more easily quantifiable things, I can compete in terms of my own 'quality', in the more subjective sphere, by being better. Talking to women friends I know, they put personal qualities high on their list. But of course these are mature women, not scatter-brained girls.
 
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A man wants three things:

1) Quality
2) Fertility
3) Loyalty

#3 is tough to come by when you have girls with both #1 and #2. But remember: if women were more faithful, they'd be faithful to the last guy and you'd have no chance, so it swings both ways. You ultimately need to be better than the other guys.
I think it's fertility that comes first, then quality, then loyalty. Because what's the first thing you notice in a woman? Her looks. Thats what initially attracts you to her in the first place.
 
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I think it's fertility that comes first, then quality, theb loyalty. Because what's the first thing you notice in a woman? Her looks. Thats what initially attracts you to her in the first place.
Yes, good point. These were in no particular order, thanks.

Loyalty must come last though, because it can't come until after you achieve her quality and fertility.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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