"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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5 Ways Exclusive Relationships Are Better Than Spinning Plates

zekko

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Fertility
Last thing I want is children. But we are still attracted to signs of fertility, that's just nature.

Agree that ultimately you have to be better than other guys. It's a competitive world, like it or not.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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ChristopherColumbus

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A man wants, in regard to women, three things:

1) Quality
2) Fertility
3) Loyalty

#3 is tough to come by when you have girls with both #1 and #2. But remember: if women were more faithful, they'd be faithful to the last guy and you'd have no chance, so it swings both ways. You ultimately need to be better than the other guys.
Corrected.
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I doubt, that on paper, I can really be better than compete with most.... age, finances, height etc. If I can not compete there, in the more easily quantifiable things, I can compete in terms of my own 'quality', in the more subjective sphere, by being better. Talking to women friends I know, they put personal qualities high on their list. But of course these are mature women, not scatter-brained girls.
 
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A man wants three things:

1) Quality
2) Fertility
3) Loyalty

#3 is tough to come by when you have girls with both #1 and #2. But remember: if women were more faithful, they'd be faithful to the last guy and you'd have no chance, so it swings both ways. You ultimately need to be better than the other guys.
I think it's fertility that comes first, then quality, then loyalty. Because what's the first thing you notice in a woman? Her looks. Thats what initially attracts you to her in the first place.
 
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I think it's fertility that comes first, then quality, theb loyalty. Because what's the first thing you notice in a woman? Her looks. Thats what initially attracts you to her in the first place.
Yes, good point. These were in no particular order, thanks.

Loyalty must come last though, because it can't come until after you achieve her quality and fertility.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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