"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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5 Ways Exclusive Relationships Are Better Than Spinning Plates

zekko

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Fertility
Last thing I want is children. But we are still attracted to signs of fertility, that's just nature.

Agree that ultimately you have to be better than other guys. It's a competitive world, like it or not.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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ChristopherColumbus

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A man wants, in regard to women, three things:

1) Quality
2) Fertility
3) Loyalty

#3 is tough to come by when you have girls with both #1 and #2. But remember: if women were more faithful, they'd be faithful to the last guy and you'd have no chance, so it swings both ways. You ultimately need to be better than the other guys.
Corrected.
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I doubt, that on paper, I can really be better than compete with most.... age, finances, height etc. If I can not compete there, in the more easily quantifiable things, I can compete in terms of my own 'quality', in the more subjective sphere, by being better. Talking to women friends I know, they put personal qualities high on their list. But of course these are mature women, not scatter-brained girls.
 
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ImTheDoubleGreatest!

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A man wants three things:

1) Quality
2) Fertility
3) Loyalty

#3 is tough to come by when you have girls with both #1 and #2. But remember: if women were more faithful, they'd be faithful to the last guy and you'd have no chance, so it swings both ways. You ultimately need to be better than the other guys.
I think it's fertility that comes first, then quality, then loyalty. Because what's the first thing you notice in a woman? Her looks. Thats what initially attracts you to her in the first place.
 
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I think it's fertility that comes first, then quality, theb loyalty. Because what's the first thing you notice in a woman? Her looks. Thats what initially attracts you to her in the first place.
Yes, good point. These were in no particular order, thanks.

Loyalty must come last though, because it can't come until after you achieve her quality and fertility.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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