You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Oh, now that is completely fvcked up. Where's my passport??!!Skel said:Lol I saw this on the news last night
They said on the news last night that 5'4" and 165lbs is the average height and weight for an American woman now.
Little fat midget girls in America now
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
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Ever read the Craigslist personals? A lot of them are women who list their measurements as "5'4, 165 lbs" or similar numbers... and they go on and on about how the person they want to meet has to look (tall, dark hair, muscular, etc).
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At 165lbs a woman has to be at least my height (5"11) for me to consider her fit. There's no way in hell I'd consider a woman much heavier than that. Actually the scary thing is that a lot of larger women profess that the reason that they go for guys bigger (fatter) than them is so that they would look smaller!!! What the hell is this world coming to??!!!Gangster Of Love said:Those numbers you list there are what the normal/average woman looks like. Thick. The ones on those personals say they weight 165 because that is what "average" is nowadays. In reality they are closer to 205lbs.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
They don't "go for them", if they had a choice, they would go with the guy with the great body. Most will avoid a skinny guy, but ideally they want average to muscular. Hey, they get what they can get, just like us, they have their preferences.Francisco d'Anconia said:At 165lbs a woman has to be at least my height (5"11) for me to consider her fit. There's no way in hell I'd consider a woman much heavier than that. Actually the scary thing is that a lot of larger women profess that the reason that they go for guys bigger (fatter) than them is so that they would look smaller!!! What the hell is this world coming to??!!!![]()
That right there is such a great quote. Their laundry lists are wish lists, but what they want and what they get are always different.Gangster Of Love said:Hey, they get what they can get, just like us, they have their preferences.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
meitenesrigas said:This is why I laugh at guys on here from America/Uk/Canada who talk about all the "hot" girls they see around them. No you don't! Most are fat. This isn't 1984. The Culture Club are no more and The Wall has finally come down. About the only thin group in America these days are gay men.
BTW, if you want tall thin lanky girls go to Lithuania, Latvia, Serbia, Montenegro, Croatia, Bosnia, or Slovenia. The Balkans and Eastern Baltics produce freaks (ever notice all the NBA players from tiny countries like Slovenia and Lithuania?). I think the Dutch are the tallest Western Europeans, but they are still short compared to some of the skywalkers you see in places like Kaunas, Lithuania.
We can't get the fat ones to fit into the camera shot.AgonyUncle said:...Saying that, I cant believe how fat American women must be if thats the national average now. We hear of obesity being a problem in the USA, but we always get to see Paris Hilton and Pamela Anderson....
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.