Well that dissertation got her to reply! What is an HB99 lol? I mean, what qualifies as that?
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
42 yr old HB9 just replied to me on match
- Thread starter biggoal
- Start date
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
No lol. Since my shop is in the same town she lives in I'll just message her tomorrow and see if she wants drinks or coffee maybe. It's cheap and not even really a first official real date. Besides its quick and simple. I'm not getting burned with 60 dollar dinner dates again.
Shrubber101
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The fact that you have to ask S.S for advice every time you so much as scratch your arse and your obsession with OLD tells me you need to work on your inner game before anything else.
You need to find out who you are and then own your s#it.
You need to find out who you are and then own your s#it.
RickTheToad
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It's not real. Nor are the HB whatever numbers you use. You need to come off cloud 9 and come back to reality. That's one of your biggest issues IMO.
Why is that? The damaged goods, single moms, competing against 100s of guys, hoping they see your message?
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
She replied tonight again. She went out shopping with her sister after work. She said she was going to see if her friends would want to meet up for a drink downtown and invite me but it was pretty late she felt. She is tight on time this weekend she thinks but she wants to meet she said.
Wtf does that mean for a first dating meeting with her friends? Is that like a pre date? Lol if that's the case then I hope she has a orgy in mind and her friends are hot. I'm also texting with a hb7 39 yr old 50 miles away as well.
Wtf does that mean for a first dating meeting with her friends? Is that like a pre date? Lol if that's the case then I hope she has a orgy in mind and her friends are hot. I'm also texting with a hb7 39 yr old 50 miles away as well.
RickTheToad
Moderator
She sees you as girlfriend material, not fvckable material. You know, she can complain to you about the dudes she actually fvcks and how they are all d!cks and *******s. You lost this one dude.
IF she has hot friends can she share them with me at least! I mean what about FWB? She's 42, divorced and has no kids and on her profile she says defiantly wants kids listed under wants children. I mean, her time is running out to have kids. Is that a red flag for a 42 yr old to list on their profile?
I talked to that former Trooper again tonight trying to smooth it out but she really is mad at me and doesn't want to see me again all because I called her out on her flaky behavior. She's low end HB7 that chick. Luckily I have 3 more to focus on right now that are hotter anyway.
RickTheToad
Moderator
Dude it's you. I swear, it's like watching a dude make every single mistake over and over again. Like a social groundhogs day for you.
2Rocky
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
DelayedGratification
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This is why I've had to stop myself several times in the past week from even bothering to respond to these threads. Waste of time, and even more frustrating to watch the slow-motion train wreck as he simply refuses to process the information. Either he's an unbelievably clever troll, or just an AFC who is so entrenched in a rut that it's going to take some very direct and personal pain-points for him to finally realize that fundamental changes are in order.
That his mindset is reminiscent of the flawed worldview from my former self makes it all the more painful to witness. But given what I've seen of the posting history, I honestly don't know what I can possibly say that will have any positive impact.
RickTheToad
Moderator
I think he may be on the spectrum. Spectrum people do not usually understand common sense.
That HB7 41 year old MILF who was texting me pics from her friends child's birthday party last night texted me a couple pics of her and her HB9 friend out having a drink today and having fun. Sent me 3 pics. The HB9 is supposed to be her best friend of 11 years. It looks liker her friend as a husband because he's a brawny looking guy with a beard. I think her friend is hotter lol.
Why does she sent me all these pics for?
Why does she sent me all these pics for?
Epicwinguy
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All women in their 40s are uglier than ****
But OLD down here most are 35 and over who are decent looking. Under 35 mostly land whales.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Wrong thread. Should have been posted on the 41 year old one
What do you mean I'm doing THEM a favor?
MillionBillionaire
Master Don Juan
Mods just going to let you troll?
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.