Well that dissertation got her to reply! What is an HB99 lol? I mean, what qualifies as that?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
42 yr old HB9 just replied to me on match
- Thread starter biggoal
- Start date
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
No lol. Since my shop is in the same town she lives in I'll just message her tomorrow and see if she wants drinks or coffee maybe. It's cheap and not even really a first official real date. Besides its quick and simple. I'm not getting burned with 60 dollar dinner dates again.
Shrubber101
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The fact that you have to ask S.S for advice every time you so much as scratch your arse and your obsession with OLD tells me you need to work on your inner game before anything else.
You need to find out who you are and then own your s#it.
You need to find out who you are and then own your s#it.
RickTheToad
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It's not real. Nor are the HB whatever numbers you use. You need to come off cloud 9 and come back to reality. That's one of your biggest issues IMO.
Why is that? The damaged goods, single moms, competing against 100s of guys, hoping they see your message?
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
She replied tonight again. She went out shopping with her sister after work. She said she was going to see if her friends would want to meet up for a drink downtown and invite me but it was pretty late she felt. She is tight on time this weekend she thinks but she wants to meet she said.
Wtf does that mean for a first dating meeting with her friends? Is that like a pre date? Lol if that's the case then I hope she has a orgy in mind and her friends are hot. I'm also texting with a hb7 39 yr old 50 miles away as well.
Wtf does that mean for a first dating meeting with her friends? Is that like a pre date? Lol if that's the case then I hope she has a orgy in mind and her friends are hot. I'm also texting with a hb7 39 yr old 50 miles away as well.
RickTheToad
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She sees you as girlfriend material, not fvckable material. You know, she can complain to you about the dudes she actually fvcks and how they are all d!cks and *******s. You lost this one dude.
IF she has hot friends can she share them with me at least! I mean what about FWB? She's 42, divorced and has no kids and on her profile she says defiantly wants kids listed under wants children. I mean, her time is running out to have kids. Is that a red flag for a 42 yr old to list on their profile?
I talked to that former Trooper again tonight trying to smooth it out but she really is mad at me and doesn't want to see me again all because I called her out on her flaky behavior. She's low end HB7 that chick. Luckily I have 3 more to focus on right now that are hotter anyway.
RickTheToad
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Dude it's you. I swear, it's like watching a dude make every single mistake over and over again. Like a social groundhogs day for you.
2Rocky
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“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
DelayedGratification
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This is why I've had to stop myself several times in the past week from even bothering to respond to these threads. Waste of time, and even more frustrating to watch the slow-motion train wreck as he simply refuses to process the information. Either he's an unbelievably clever troll, or just an AFC who is so entrenched in a rut that it's going to take some very direct and personal pain-points for him to finally realize that fundamental changes are in order.
That his mindset is reminiscent of the flawed worldview from my former self makes it all the more painful to witness. But given what I've seen of the posting history, I honestly don't know what I can possibly say that will have any positive impact.
RickTheToad
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I think he may be on the spectrum. Spectrum people do not usually understand common sense.
That HB7 41 year old MILF who was texting me pics from her friends child's birthday party last night texted me a couple pics of her and her HB9 friend out having a drink today and having fun. Sent me 3 pics. The HB9 is supposed to be her best friend of 11 years. It looks liker her friend as a husband because he's a brawny looking guy with a beard. I think her friend is hotter lol.
Why does she sent me all these pics for?
Why does she sent me all these pics for?
Epicwinguy
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All women in their 40s are uglier than ****
But OLD down here most are 35 and over who are decent looking. Under 35 mostly land whales.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Wrong thread. Should have been posted on the 41 year old one
What do you mean I'm doing THEM a favor?
MillionBillionaire
Master Don Juan
Mods just going to let you troll?
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.