"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
40, very much a cat mom, doesn't want kids, didn't date on her 30s
- Thread starter Borknagar
- Start date
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Gamisch
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You might as well go for this. This seems like a more realistic option.
Just don't expect it to last forever. If anything, don't underestimate the amount of options that such a woman has.
Barrister
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Not dating "at all" in her 30s would be a red flag. Not that I buy that for a second. But really, any woman who is hot and single past 30 has some at least some latent red flags. Just based on what you're describing, there is no reason to not at least sleep with her and turn her into a plate. Anything more and you need to gather more intel as you spend time together before making that call.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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Solomon
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40 no kids and hot? that's rare
Somehow 40 and hot are mutually exclusive
Modern Man Advice
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She is effectively a cat lady, and I don't mean that in a good way.
To your question, enjoy it while it lasts.
Macadellic
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
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BackInTheGame78
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That usually means she is a psycho. That's the biggest red flag there is for a woman. That isn't a plus, that's a huge minus.
Pierce Manhammer
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Correction: a little crazy makes for great sechs.
EyeBRollin
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This is the way.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Do you have a face that go with that?
Pierce Manhammer
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I do but you’ll never see it…why da fuk would I post up a fwbs picture here? /facepalm
How do I know she has a good looking face?
Pierce Manhammer
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I frankly don’t give a f*ck what you think, chances are all of my plates are hotter than anything you could ever get even in the same postal code with. You’ll have to take my word for it, especially since you’re on a board looking for men to pic put a of their fwbs.How do I know she has a good looking face?
The thirst is real.
Bokanovsky
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Don't be surprised if you invite a certain measure of ridicule when trying to brag on the internet. Why did you post that photo to begin with?
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.