"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
40, very much a cat mom, doesn't want kids, didn't date on her 30s
- Thread starter Borknagar
- Start date
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Gamisch
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You might as well go for this. This seems like a more realistic option.
Just don't expect it to last forever. If anything, don't underestimate the amount of options that such a woman has.
Barrister
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Not dating "at all" in her 30s would be a red flag. Not that I buy that for a second. But really, any woman who is hot and single past 30 has some at least some latent red flags. Just based on what you're describing, there is no reason to not at least sleep with her and turn her into a plate. Anything more and you need to gather more intel as you spend time together before making that call.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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Solomon
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40 no kids and hot? that's rare
Somehow 40 and hot are mutually exclusive
Modern Man Advice
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She is effectively a cat lady, and I don't mean that in a good way.
To your question, enjoy it while it lasts.
Macadellic
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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BackInTheGame78
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That usually means she is a psycho. That's the biggest red flag there is for a woman. That isn't a plus, that's a huge minus.
Pierce Manhammer
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Correction: a little crazy makes for great sechs.
EyeBRollin
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This is the way.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Do you have a face that go with that?
Pierce Manhammer
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I do but you’ll never see it…why da fuk would I post up a fwbs picture here? /facepalm
How do I know she has a good looking face?
Pierce Manhammer
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I frankly don’t give a f*ck what you think, chances are all of my plates are hotter than anything you could ever get even in the same postal code with. You’ll have to take my word for it, especially since you’re on a board looking for men to pic put a of their fwbs.How do I know she has a good looking face?
The thirst is real.
Bokanovsky
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Don't be surprised if you invite a certain measure of ridicule when trying to brag on the internet. Why did you post that photo to begin with?
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.