"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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3rd annual Anti-approach anxiety competition

Gray The Prince

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http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=190530

Last year's competition^

Hello all, GTP here yet again. About 2 years ago, AAAgent began a competition to eliminate Approach Anxiety. Nearly 30 guys entered, myself included and I finished in the Top 4 in a 4-way tie with Robyn, PrettyBoyAJ and another guy whose name slips me at the moment. I launched the 2nd annual competition last year and together with Robyn, we coordinated it and Roman81 emerged victorious.

This competiton has truly changed my daygame and killed my Approach Anxiety because it caused me to step out of my comfort zone. It's about to be spring soon, so as a new SS tradition, I am announcing the 3rd competition. I also want to give everybody ample time to sign up, so I think i'll give everybody about a week in order to do so.


That being said, if you want to start getting to work early, Like I said last year, who am I to stop ya?


Oh and all credit and creation of the original competition and general rules go to AAAgent.


Same rules apply as last year:

1.) No veterans allowed. We all know who you are. However, if you wana post tips, encouragement, etc. PLEASE do so.

2.) Tasks must be completed and posted on time. Estimated 1 week time span for each task/objective. Start on Monday and you must post by Sunday 11:59pm or you are eliminated.

3.) Encouragement and tips are highly recommended as to create better/more fierce competition so that we can better ourselves and better each other.

4.) Just because you fair well with the opposite sex doesn't mean you fair well in approaches/AA. If you are one of the guys that has women approach you but cannot approach, you're welcome to join in.

5.) Do not lie about your approaches/tasks. Even though we have no way of knowing whether or not you are lying, just be a man and accept defeat. Failure is evident on the path to success.

6.) You are to get a phone number if the tasks call you to do so. E-Mail, facebook, things that aren't phone numbers DO NOT count.
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We will do a two strikes rule. If you fail to meet an objective twice, you are eliminated from the competition no ifs ans or buts. As each round progresses, the tasks will become more and more difficult.


Any questions, comments or concerns, please PM me or post them in this thread. Good luck to you all.




Participants
Neon Owl
coachD
packers2010
parad0x
Nite
Sageproduct
Plutoman
Dali tx o
nroug07
gunner26
JohnChops
 
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Neon Owl

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Fvck it why not. Count me in.
 

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I'm in. This is exactly what I need. For the record, I'm planning on starting my own 30 day challenge of approaching an attractive woman everyday on Wednesday or Thursday.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Gray The Prince said:
4.) Just because you fair well with the opposite sex doesn't mean you fair well in approaches/AA. If you are one of the guys that has women approach you but cannot approach, you're welcome to join in.
I'm the opposite. I can approach but I don't fare well with the opposite sex in general. Can I join?
 

Gray The Prince

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sageproduct said:
I'm the opposite. I can approach but I don't fare well with the opposite sex in general. Can I join?

Yeah. Updating the list now.



Packers2010 said:
BOOO!

i don't even care! I'm still entering. i have to make it to number 1 now!

Actually, I was going to invite you to join anyway. This will do you some serious good and help you get out of your rut.
 

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I should be down for this, as long as I can keep the time moving. Should be able to work stuff in between classes on campus though. Won't hurt to get more under my belt. Demonpenz needs to get in and do this..
 

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...Oooh, challenge for oneself!

Sign me up; Can't promise anything, but if my work/travel schedule allows it, I'll participate!
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Gunner26

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I planned on doing this last year but pussied out of putting my name down.

Not this year.

Sign me up, let's give this thing a go.

Gunner
 

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Looking forward to this competition's stories and burns :up:
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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NobodyCares1

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I remember I entered last year but didn't have enough time to complete the tasks on time... and I almost definitely won't have time this year since I am writing a school leaving exam soon and have a lot of learning to do.

Still I want to join... at least try to do some of it. I've haven't really approached in a long time.
 

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I'd like in...I don't really consider myself a veteran at approaching since i don't think i've ever made any approaches in the competition. So if you'll have me, i'm in.

I remember i created a spreadsheet for this the first time around, was interesting watching you guys duke it out.
 

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Gray The Prince said:
I got you down.
Thanks Gray, ill be on campus forever since well I'm addicted to studying so this should work well. What's the main focus to get as many approaches as possible or we have to reach a fixed amount by a deadline ?
 

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Count me in. I see this as a way to come out of my shell. Maybe this will help me stop stalling and start approaching random girls and start my own journal. (For real this time!) Will you guys also post motivational stuff here to keep everyone going on? That's what I need the most. Motivation. And someone to push me. And by someone, I mean my fellow DJ'ers. I'm excited.
 

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Im a busy ass man, but I'd like the opportunity to join in :D

How do we get the challenges?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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