"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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3 Things the Woman You're Dating Wants You to Do

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Written by: Holly Sidell Writer. Health and Fitness Professional. Born-Again Actress.


Need I say more? I didn't read the entire article but I read the key points. I agree with 1 and 2 but definitely not 3. I only agree with them because of the subtitles but I certainly don't agree with what she wrote in detail about it.

EDIT: I only agree with her first point.
 

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omg lol #3 cracks me up. I used to have a FB with about 300 friends. This was in mid 2014. I also had this gf at the time (ex now of course). On our anniversary I:

1) told her happy anniversary verbally in person, first thing in the morning
2) Late in the day replied to her FB message to me on my wall saying happy anniversary .

BUT, I failed to post happy anniversary to her FB page.. She let me have it that night so bad. It lead to a big fight and I ended up saying fVck this and disabled my FB page. These women and their social media it's really a sickness.... It just ain't right! :eek:
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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omg lol #3 cracks me up. I used to have a FB with about 300 friends. This was in mid 2014. I also had this gf at the time (ex now of course). On our anniversary I:

1) told her happy anniversary verbally in person, first thing in the morning
2) Late in the day replied to her FB message to me on my wall saying happy anniversary .

BUT, I failed to post happy anniversary to her FB page.. She let me have it that night so bad. It lead to a big fight and I ended up saying fVck this and disabled my FB page. These women and their social media it's really a sickness.... It just ain't right! :eek:
Wow. She tripped out over a Facebook message. Smh. Women.
 

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omg lol #3 cracks me up. I used to have a FB with about 300 friends. This was in mid 2014. I also had this gf at the time (ex now of course). On our anniversary I:

1) told her happy anniversary verbally in person, first thing in the morning
2) Late in the day replied to her FB message to me on my wall saying happy anniversary .

BUT, I failed to post happy anniversary to her FB page.. She let me have it that night so bad. It lead to a big fight and I ended up saying fVck this and disabled my FB page. These women and their social media it's really a sickness.... It just ain't right! :eek:
There are no such things as anniversaries with FB's...those are things reserved for girlfriends and wives.

So should we assume this was your girlfriend at the time?
 

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There are no such things as anniversaries with FB's...those are things reserved for girlfriends and wives.

So should we assume this was your girlfriend at the time?
I think FB means Facebook in his post. I could be mistaken though.
 

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Yes, she was my girlfriend at the time. And FB is Facebook.
 

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1) Pursue her.
Haaaa. We all know where that leads.

2) Be consistent.
= Be boring and predictable. Women love that.

3) In social media -- like in life -- make sure it's clear she's your favorite.
You shouldn't be connected on social media, unless you're getting married.
Any man worth his salt doesn't spend too much time on social media anyway; it's a the territory of sales and advertising betas, tech 'gurus', women and 'professional photographers'.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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to be fair i thought she started the first two paragraphs fairly well

then she just seemed to decend into complete and utter fantasy , jesus no man is ever going to be able to live up to those fanstsys she writes about

"daily hello texts make us all tingly inside"

WHAT - THE - FVCK

i can understand the wanting to feel safe stuff but the irony is its usually the woman who needs to let the man in first before any of that can happen
 

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Some of this I agree with.

1. I agree women prefer to speak with you over the phone. You get better responses when you talk to her rather than text.. the rest of Number One about pursuing the woman is complete BS.

2. There was a part that indicated that your actions are more important than what you say, I do agree you have to be congruent. She pays much more attention to what you do rather than what you say. The rest of that is suggested indicates predictability which will kill you. Women prefer a man that they are not quite sure about.... I know that it is counter-intuitive, but it is what it is.

3. The problems with social media is accurate. The solution is don't use it. Don't post anything don't like anything, unless it's a family member or good friend. Never respond to anything women you like are doing.
 

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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Ugh, the pre-sosuave me would have read this list and asked "but I'm doing all these things, why am i still not getting any girls?"

They might as well have made a list called How to Drive Women Away Quickly.
 

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First thing I immediately did when the article was posted: Scrolled down to see who wrote it.

Second thing I immediately did: Click on the red X.
 

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well to be fair pursue her and be consistent are kinda ok, her explanation on it is wrong, don't matter sometimes when you want a girl you will have to go after her a little, at least enough to hook her up, and be consistent is being a man the whole time, and don't cave for little things.

the 3rd one I follow the rule of, just to be polite, if I don't see that person on that week I will say happy birthday, and that is to any friend be male or females I don't want anything, anything diferently I will meet her, if she have a problem with that, welll, thanks for helping me to filter you
 
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I agree with the three things but I apply them very differently in my game.

Pursue her: I'll be the one setting up dates and calling initially. When interest builds it goes 50/50 at that point. I don't mind a little pursuit if she is returning the intentions, no problem.

Be Consistent: I will always act like I have feelings for her if she returns the intention. If she flakes out once I'll drop my overt interest in her and keep gaming other girls..

Social Media Favorite: If she's my girl I won't flirt with other girls on social media otherwise "whatever"
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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