El Payaso
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Time for a good laugh: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/holly-sidell/men-three-things-the-woma_b_5689169.html
LOL.
LOL.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Wow. She tripped out over a Facebook message. Smh. Women.omg lol #3 cracks me up. I used to have a FB with about 300 friends. This was in mid 2014. I also had this gf at the time (ex now of course). On our anniversary I:
1) told her happy anniversary verbally in person, first thing in the morning
2) Late in the day replied to her FB message to me on my wall saying happy anniversary .
BUT, I failed to post happy anniversary to her FB page.. She let me have it that night so bad. It lead to a big fight and I ended up saying fVck this and disabled my FB page. These women and their social media it's really a sickness.... It just ain't right!![]()
There are no such things as anniversaries with FB's...those are things reserved for girlfriends and wives.omg lol #3 cracks me up. I used to have a FB with about 300 friends. This was in mid 2014. I also had this gf at the time (ex now of course). On our anniversary I:
1) told her happy anniversary verbally in person, first thing in the morning
2) Late in the day replied to her FB message to me on my wall saying happy anniversary .
BUT, I failed to post happy anniversary to her FB page.. She let me have it that night so bad. It lead to a big fight and I ended up saying fVck this and disabled my FB page. These women and their social media it's really a sickness.... It just ain't right!![]()
I think FB means Facebook in his post. I could be mistaken though.There are no such things as anniversaries with FB's...those are things reserved for girlfriends and wives.
So should we assume this was your girlfriend at the time?
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Summed it up perfectly, women don't even know what they want, so how are they gonna give advice to men about what they want?Never take dating advice from a woman.
Lol, gotcha...Yes, she was my girlfriend at the time. And FB is Facebook.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.