3 second rule what is it any way?/

[Gobar Bomb]

can any body put some light on the 3 second rule

 

[TyTe`EyEs]

Basically it's the initial eye contact rule. You see a girl who you find attractive and get the initial eye contact. Hold eye contact for three seconds, smile, then approach.

Adonis says you shouldn't approach unless you get a smile in return.

 

[Eternal]

Moved to Discussion.

 

[Kineti[C]harm]

Originally posted by TyTe`EyEs
Basically it's the initial eye contact rule. You see a girl who you find attractive and get the initial eye contact. Hold eye contact for three seconds, smile, then approach.

Adonis says you shouldn't approach unless you get a smile in return.

No, it's approaching withing three seconds of EC/signs of interest.

 

[mrbrooklyn]

Actually it is approaching a girl within three seconds of seeing her and you are interested. You don't need to make eye contact. The reason you are given three seconds is that beyond that point your inner AFC begins to come out and you start to doubt yourself. That is how approach anxiety sets in.

 

[somnolence]

Im sorry.. All wrong!

The 3 seconds rule:
When you allready made contact with a new girl and you are talking to her, never let a pause occur during the conversation.
We all hate it when nothing is said for a short while, three seconds is the limit. Just make sure you say anything, anything at all. What you say to her is not that important at that particular point, she won´t care that much if she´s interested. Just make sure you look self-confident and like a great catch, then she will like anything you say to her..

Somnolence,

 

[TyTe`EyEs]

Where did you hear that?

 

[Kineti[C]harm]

Wrong somnolence, that is not the 3 second rule.

 

[somnolence]

I got it from one of the articles at sosuave.com TyTe`EyEs..
I believe it was from Allen Thompson.

 

[TyTe`EyEs]

I know for a fact the rule deals with approaching.

 

[Gangster Of Love]

Mr. Brooklyn is right. Has nothing to do with no silence or positive signs. You see what you want, you don't hesitate. 3 seconds refers to the maximum amount of time you can let pass; after that, you will probably talk yourself out it.

 

[Slimijs]

From ASF (alt.seduction.fast)
The point of the 3s rule is to propel you to approach women fast enough to keep your internal voice from talking you out of it and avoid hesitation. You do not want a woman to see you hesitate. The longer you hesitate, the more insecure and sappy you appear. Also, hesitation creates an added sense of nervousness to your mental state - a personality trait you do not want to portray when approaching women.

Even if you can't think of any way to initiate a conversation with a woman, whatever you do, don't break the 3s rule! Act in 3 seconds as the default rule, even if you have no idea how you will continue. If you don't have an opener or opening line in mind by the time you're in front of her, at least just say "Hi". If you act in 3 seconds, she will notice it, no matter where she just came in from or where you came from or how you passed by each other. She will see the spontaneity and decisiveness in your approach and it can only work in your favor. If you wait, hesitate, then decide to approach, you are in a weaker situation. Hesitating will give your self-doubt a chance to create imaginary bad outcomes and add unneeded insecurity to your approach.

With the 3s rule, you don't need to wait for eye contact or for her to notice you or for an opportunity to present itself. You simply see something you like and you go right up to it. You are also doing yourself a favor by following the 3s rule. In three seconds, you have no time to become nervous, self-conscious, sweaty, shaky - all the obvious signs of an AFC: lacking confidence, quality, power, or assertiveness, a weakling around women, a pariah to beautiful girls. Even if you start sweating, or getting shaky or stutter while talking to the woman after following the 3s rule, you weren't that way when you initiated contact. The first impression is what counts. If that first impression of you is of a confident and spontaneous man, her feelings for you will be positive from the start, which greatly the minimizes the chance of you turning into a pile of jelly while talking with her. It sets the pace and helps keep your inner voice at bay, allowing you the chance to keep up your confidence.

The 3s rule, though, is not absolute - you may simply not notice her when she enters your environment, or maybe you'll be tied up with something that might in some way stop you from approaching her (real obstacles, not your imagined ones). The 3 seconds start counting from the moment you have spotted her and are free to approach. When those two conditions are met, you really don't have the time to think deep thoughts, or try and figure out whether or not she noticed that you didn't approach her because you were either too preoccupied, restrained, or simply oblivious - the clock is always ticking, so move it!

This explains everything

 

[Jimbo2k]

I think somnolence should be banned.

 

[VictorK]

lol@banning somnolence

Dude it has nothing to do with keeping the conversation going.

I know of 1 meaning to the 3 second rule.

1. You see a hot girl, u make eye contact, smile..she gives positive feedback...and now you have 3 seconds to go up and talk to her.

 

[check_mate_kid_uk]

he was also explaining to do after the 3 second rule once you approch some one. What iv jeared is that its just to do with approching with in 3 seocnds so you do not get nervous. Getting eye contact and smile is important and will boost your confidence and altohugh it may be best to get eye contact and a smail first, stricktly speaking it has nothihng to do with the 3 second rule

 

[Thraxeh]

u guys are ALL WRONG

the 3 second rule is if some food drops onto the ground u have 3 seconds to pick it up, or it is considered dirty

 

[check_mate_kid_uk]

hey Thraxeh thats a good rule of yours, i think ill keep it in mind next time, i mena who needs girls if you can have food

 

[Capt.Jack Sparrow]

Not uh Thraxeh

Thats the TEN SECOND rule.