"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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How to approach about 3 girls in the bar of a club? let's say you go there and say hi but they make kinda fun of you.. i mean they talk to you but show ZERO interest? how to get their attention?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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This is a hard one -- look for positive eye contact and feel the vibes first and then ask the girl that you are interested in to dance - ISOLATATION!!

If you are in a group then do the "Wingman" thing!
 
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hehe but bro if you cant initiate eye contact? if you're just behind the girl and see that shes hot? thats an even harder one =) but thats what im pointing on
 
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Originally posted by rapsta
hehe but bro if you cant initiate eye contact? if you're just behind the girl and see that shes hot? thats an even harder one =) but thats what im pointing on
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Why get stuck on one group of girls? If they ain't giving you play, look for more approachable girls.
 
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Man im not talking just about yesterday. It can be a good thing to know when you're going out another time, or the next time, or next :) feel me?
Sure i can go approach someone else, but why not ask about tips about this? maybe someone is good at this stuff? :) peace
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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It's probably best to get some social proof going in the the place before you just plain walk up to a group of girls........be in their site when you walk up to other people and say hi (its doesn't have to go good just let them see you talking to others).....when you finally do walk up to the group of girls you'll have some practice worked in and a little bit of confidence on your shoulders aswell......you should get a much warmer reception if you do these things.
 
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All of this is in the DJB, I'd highly recommend taking time to read it. From isolation to cold approaches, you'll find that this and many other questions you never knew you had are all answered by reading the articles and threads contained in the following link:

http://www.jbspencer.com/djb
 
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