"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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How to approach about 3 girls in the bar of a club? let's say you go there and say hi but they make kinda fun of you.. i mean they talk to you but show ZERO interest? how to get their attention?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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This is a hard one -- look for positive eye contact and feel the vibes first and then ask the girl that you are interested in to dance - ISOLATATION!!

If you are in a group then do the "Wingman" thing!
 
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hehe but bro if you cant initiate eye contact? if you're just behind the girl and see that shes hot? thats an even harder one =) but thats what im pointing on
 
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Originally posted by rapsta
hehe but bro if you cant initiate eye contact? if you're just behind the girl and see that shes hot? thats an even harder one =) but thats what im pointing on
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Why get stuck on one group of girls? If they ain't giving you play, look for more approachable girls.
 
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Man im not talking just about yesterday. It can be a good thing to know when you're going out another time, or the next time, or next :) feel me?
Sure i can go approach someone else, but why not ask about tips about this? maybe someone is good at this stuff? :) peace
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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It's probably best to get some social proof going in the the place before you just plain walk up to a group of girls........be in their site when you walk up to other people and say hi (its doesn't have to go good just let them see you talking to others).....when you finally do walk up to the group of girls you'll have some practice worked in and a little bit of confidence on your shoulders aswell......you should get a much warmer reception if you do these things.
 
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All of this is in the DJB, I'd highly recommend taking time to read it. From isolation to cold approaches, you'll find that this and many other questions you never knew you had are all answered by reading the articles and threads contained in the following link:

http://www.jbspencer.com/djb
 
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