"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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2017: The year ahead.

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What plans, aims, objectives and progression will you achieve in 2017?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I am surprised I see no one having goals.

For me 2017, I always follow a 5-years plan with 5 main objectives:

1) Finish my last professionnal order license
2) Take over the family business
3) Drop to 190 pounds muscle with capable to run 5 km
4) Get my motorcycle license
5) Be efficient in Salsa, Waltz, Hustle, Meregue

I'll keep my monk style. The ladies will be a matter of living the present.

2017 will be my most challenging year
 

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Drop 5% body fat

Move to the city I've been dreaming of living in

Pay off my car
 

TheMonkeyKing

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I am surprised I see no one having goals.
The thread is a little premature. I have hardly thought about my own really. A new job is definitely on the cards though.
 

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I'm going to be doing more renos to my home, but the goal is to eventually rent it out and buy myself a new home, which is a goal for 2018).

I think most of my major goals are for 2018 with 2017 being the year that I take the steps to get there. 2018 is likely also going to be the year where I figure out if I'm going to keep the GF around for the long haul. I'm giving myself two years of being with her to make that decision. I've already known her for three years and I can't see her going anywhere, but I need another year of her being "comfortable" to see what kind of person she really is.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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-Update my computer forensics certifications

-Drop 40 lbs

-Finish cleaning up around the house and getting rid of crap I don't use

For the most part I tend to do better in odd numbered years, for some reason. My best years ever have been 2007 and 2011. 2015 was pretty darn good too. Looking to beat all 3 this year in greatness.
 

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after a very poor 2015 , 2016 has been pretty good for me especially regarding work and life experiences I’ve hit goals I was desperate too

2 promotions and I left a toxic office/ organisation I hated, In the process I also cut a 300 mile a week commute down to just under 100

ive also attended 5 massive edm festivals across Europe which has helped to broaden my mind

Unfortunately my personal finances are still dire, and I’m still stuck at home living with my parents which is a pain in the A$$ and something I’m hoping to change in 2017

Women aren’t really too much of a bother they come and go haven’t really found one I’ve felt a real attachment to yet

I don’t struggle to approach or talk to them and to be honest I only make an effort with chicks I’m really attracted too now

I just leave all the other plates chase me now

i Have one hell of a business idea I also want to explore in 2017 that could make millions

but its going to take a lot of work and commitment and finding the right people to help me this will probably be a project that will spill over into 2018 and 2019
 

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I genuinely think 2017 is going to be the year it all comes together for me, with the previous year been spent studying game, fixing my childhood issues and going from skinny fat AF to in very good shape. Aims are:

I'm going back to college in March to finally finish my BMS

Going to go wild while I'm there

First 20+ different lays year

Go from "very good shape" to "insane shape"

So, pretty shallow goals mostly some might say but it's what I want before I hit my 30s, one last blowout the way I should have done it in my 20s
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Settle in my career
Travel abroad for the first time
Move to a better location
Secondary
Start a side gig
Get our is my boring car in to a nice truck lol
 

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after a very poor 2015 , 2016 has been pretty good for me especially regarding work and life experiences I’ve hit goals I was desperate too

2 promotions and I left a toxic office/ organisation I hated, In the process I also cut a 300 mile a week commute down to just under 100

ive also attended 5 massive edm festivals across Europe which has helped to broaden my mind

Unfortunately my personal finances are still dire, and I’m still stuck at home living with my parents which is a pain in the A$$ and something I’m hoping to change in 2017

Women aren’t really too much of a bother they come and go haven’t really found one I’ve felt a real attachment to yet

I don’t struggle to approach or talk to them and to be honest I only make an effort with chicks I’m really attracted too now

I just leave all the other plates chase me now

i Have one hell of a business idea I also want to explore in 2017 that could make millions

but its going to take a lot of work and commitment and finding the right people to help me this will probably be a project that will spill over into 2018 and 2019
How did one per-say "expand the mind" at these festivals?
 

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2017 - Aside from getting in shape, hoping to hit 2 of the below items...
- I want to get in shape. I think I am 18% body fat right now and would like to get down to 12% or so, definitely by summertime
- learn to play piano
- learn to dance (salsa and ballroom)
- start taking a martial art

2016 brought about a career change, a divorce and a relationship that I poured my heart into (and got broke), I hope to build on all of these 3 as well
 

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I think that my relationship will end soon. I will continue to lift and work on me. I also am remodeling a house for me. I want to have it finished by june. After the relationship ends I'll concentrate on my goals and forgo women for a while.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I think that my relationship will end soon. I will continue to lift and work on me. I also am remodeling a house for me. I want to have it finished by june. After the relationship ends I'll concentrate on my goals and forgo women for a while.
Why don't you just dump this b!tch today?

Good God.. do you value your own time?
 

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Why don't you just dump this b!tch today?

Good God.. do you value your own time?[/QUOTE

I don't need to justify my actions to someone I have never met on the internet. It's my choice to follow this to the end.
 

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Money,power,success,more pu$$y,10% body fat,even more personal development,reading 25 books,higher GPA.unlike vague wishes and dreams, i actually have a plan to achive all this.i belive 2017 will be a great year.
 

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I'm going to buckle down in 2017, get my sh!t together, and get back on welfare. I was on it in 2016, but I could only cut it for a few months, and they kicked me off. Not just anybody can be on welfare; you have to work hard at it. I didn't know what I was getting myself into. But I'm hoping if they give me a second chance, I can prove that I have what it takes.
 

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In 2017 my work ethnic needs to get a lot better. This year I was lazy, particularly when it came to working out and eating clean. I'm not in good shape but I want to be in good shape by June when I move to a new state.

For years I admit I was too thirsty but this year no longer. I will have more of a "High status" attitude and I will only deal with high quality women. I will not chase. I will focus on my work and health first.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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