I've heard some generic comments on how to make yourself un-phased by beauty, like imagine her taking a sh*t and stuff like that, but does anyone have experience working through this and some solid advice to give on how I can make myself unaffected by a woman's looks? My issue isn't the approach, it's on dates etc. I want to just be myself but am so affected that it really fvcks me up.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Personally i think imagining her taking a sh/t would f/ck me up more than how beautiful she is.
Dont make it a big deal, be calm and remember sometimes its good to say nothing. If theres an awkward silence dont feel the need to break it, just be calm and confident. Dont let anything external break your frame.
Dont make it a big deal, be calm and remember sometimes its good to say nothing. If theres an awkward silence dont feel the need to break it, just be calm and confident. Dont let anything external break your frame.
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Make her stutter if you're talking to her or look at her lip or somewhere on her forehead, which will make her think somethings on her face 
When you say you are "phased by beauty" what exactly do you mean?
do you mean that when you are in the company of a gorgeous woman you become clumsy, say the wrong things etc?
Something that has always helped me is to check in with my thoughts, and the motives behind my actions.
If I'm experiencing anxiety, it's usually due to the fact that my motive is to impress somebody - if that's the case with you, then change your focus\motive and see how that works out for you.
There are millions of hot women on this planet, walk down the street on a sunny day and drink them all up: just because they're hot doesn't mean they're cool though.
So perhaps proceeding with the motive of finding out if she's cool, rather than trying to get her to like you may be a little more productive for you.
do you mean that when you are in the company of a gorgeous woman you become clumsy, say the wrong things etc?
Something that has always helped me is to check in with my thoughts, and the motives behind my actions.
If I'm experiencing anxiety, it's usually due to the fact that my motive is to impress somebody - if that's the case with you, then change your focus\motive and see how that works out for you.
There are millions of hot women on this planet, walk down the street on a sunny day and drink them all up: just because they're hot doesn't mean they're cool though.
So perhaps proceeding with the motive of finding out if she's cool, rather than trying to get her to like you may be a little more productive for you.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Thanks guys,
When I say that I'm phased, I mean...wtf do I mean...???
I feel like....I've come such a long way from where I was and my mindset is very healthy, I can be who I am truely most of the time, and if I feel the girl is cute but not beautiful I am fine, when I spend more time then a few minutes with a beautiful girl I get drawn in and blank, and start getting in my head. I mean that beauty affects me in just being who I am and expressing myself. I get more on the pre-rejection defense and afraid to escalate physically. I want to be in a place where I am 100% comfortable in just being me around them and being able to have fun and be stupid flirty and sexual. Feel like there is a road block in front of me stopping this, a barrier I need to overcome.
When I say that I'm phased, I mean...wtf do I mean...???
I feel like....I've come such a long way from where I was and my mindset is very healthy, I can be who I am truely most of the time, and if I feel the girl is cute but not beautiful I am fine, when I spend more time then a few minutes with a beautiful girl I get drawn in and blank, and start getting in my head. I mean that beauty affects me in just being who I am and expressing myself. I get more on the pre-rejection defense and afraid to escalate physically. I want to be in a place where I am 100% comfortable in just being me around them and being able to have fun and be stupid flirty and sexual. Feel like there is a road block in front of me stopping this, a barrier I need to overcome.
Been there done that.
What you should do and it has helped me, is to have a mind set that you will never in your life, ever, will get to sleep with her. By doing that you are putting her in to a friends zone on a subconscious level. In other words, you are setting your self for rejection from the get-go.
Or, pretend that you just met your long lost sister who is hot. And talk to her as if shes your sister.
Once you know that and understand it, you'll be able to talk to her as you would with any other person.
What you should do and it has helped me, is to have a mind set that you will never in your life, ever, will get to sleep with her. By doing that you are putting her in to a friends zone on a subconscious level. In other words, you are setting your self for rejection from the get-go.
Or, pretend that you just met your long lost sister who is hot. And talk to her as if shes your sister.
Once you know that and understand it, you'll be able to talk to her as you would with any other person.