"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I’ve told a girl at work I like her and do small favours, girl ignores me, will talk to me now and again.

After speaking to to a friend who has game, I have 2 options


1) ignore her totally, unless she iniaties even then one word answers. (If it doesn’t work, losing her as a friend totally)

2) talk to her still (friend zoned forever)


Also I have to see her outside work without asking her out, how can I manage this, without looking like a stalker

I don’t know which one to choose because I don’t want to ignore her and lose her being my friend,

I want to be her boyfriend if not a very close friend, but I have to choose one I’m struggling.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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dude just be normal around her right now, dont do anything especially texting. here and there talk is fine at work... dont just ignore her totally you will come off as a loser...
 

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Thanks

I won’t intiate anything.
Just say hi, etc in passing, I won’t approach either like if I see her at lunch.

according to her close friend who she likes, she goes for looks...and also she thinks I’m a downgrade.
 

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We use to be same department she works in a different department now
 

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I’ve told a girl at work I like her and do small favours, girl ignores me, will talk to me now and again.

After speaking to to a friend who has game, I have 2 options


1) ignore her totally, unless she iniaties even then one word answers. (If it doesn’t work, losing her as a friend totally)

2) talk to her still (friend zoned forever)


Also I have to see her outside work without asking her out, how can I manage this, without looking like a stalker

I don’t know which one to choose because I don’t want to ignore her and lose her being my friend,

I want to be her boyfriend if not a very close friend, but I have to choose one I’m struggling.
She plays games with you and you want her as a girlfriend for what?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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She thinks you are a dwongrade??????

F0ck this *****, but don´t ignore her completely, you may come off as butthurt.

If she thinks you are a downgrade, focus on yourself. Work out, have interesting hobbies, Imrove your finances, Improve your car, Improve your clothes, and get more plates.
 

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She does think of me as a downgrade even though her ex wasn’t good looking and neither is she.

I wasn’t meant to know she said that.

I walked past her today we were coming back from lunch and she was leaving, I said hi,

I should have just ignored her and only if she said something to me then said hi.

Get more plates?

I’m just gona ignore her start going gym change my clothes then When I look better talk to her.
 

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She does think of me as a downgrade even though her ex wasn’t good looking and neither is she.

I wasn’t meant to know she said that.

I walked past her today we were coming back from lunch and she was leaving, I said hi,

I should have just ignored her and only if she said something to me then said hi.

Get more plates?

I’m just gona ignore her start going gym change my clothes then When I look better talk to her.
How bout you stop wasting your time with her and focus your energy into improving your looks and mindset so you can then go find other women who are already interested?

Never waste time with uninterested women. 90% of men's problem with women stem from trying to make uninterested women interested.
 

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I am looking for other girls too.
i can improve my looks but how can I improve mindset.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I am looking for other girls too.
i can improve my looks but how can I improve mindset.
Losing the scarcity mindset by fvcking at least one currently interested babe. You should always have a source of puzzy.
 

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Cos I told her I liked her did that mess everything up.

As now she finds it awkard around me and cos people at work know maybe that’s why she doesn’t approach me

Then again even before that we never really chatted.
 

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Cos I told her I liked her did that mess everything up.

As now she finds it awkard around me and cos people at work know maybe that’s why she doesn’t approach me

Then again even before that we never really chatted.
Literally leave her alone. Find a chick that's bothering you for time and fvck her.
 

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She does think of me as a downgrade even though her ex wasn’t good looking and neither is she.

I wasn’t meant to know she said that.

I walked past her today we were coming back from lunch and she was leaving, I said hi,

I should have just ignored her and only if she said something to me then said hi.

Get more plates?

I’m just gona ignore her start going gym change my clothes then When I look better talk to her.
Bro, you're a straight male, correct?
Then you can never really know what a female finds attractive about a man's face.

Also, have you paid attention to the threads on this site? Women generally date UP while men date DOWN.

Ignore this chick. Even if it comes off as petty. IGNORE HER. Blatantly. Even she says hi to your face.

You already failed so you must do a hard reset.
 

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Bro, you're a straight male, correct?
Then you can never really know what a female finds attractive about a man's face.

Also, have you paid attention to the threads on this site? Women generally date UP while men date DOWN.

Ignore this chick. Even if it comes off as petty. IGNORE HER. Blatantly. Even she says hi to your face.

You already failed so you must do a hard reset.
Yes straight male

How did I fail?

What will ignoring achivie?

It’s so difficult almost impossible when you like someone that much, there must be a way to turn it around?, not a garunteed way.

How can I find one who’s interested in me


What about making her feel sorry for me telling her about a aggravated burglary I had?, and showing my picture?, not at work outside work. (House party etc)

Sometimes I’ve been with work friends and her.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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What about making her feel sorry for me telling her about a aggravated burglary I had?, and showing my picture?
Blackmail pettiness??? this is the worse thing you can do.
Man, you have a lot of work to do. Start yesterday.
 

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Blackmail pettiness??? this is the worse thing you can do.
Man, you have a lot of work to do. Start yesterday.
I’m not gona blackmail her, just tell her end of story, like I’ve told other friends
 
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