"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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195x11 and 205x5 Bench Press - New Personal Best!

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About 5 months ago this year, I started really focussing on quality form in my bench presses. I am slowly bringing the bar all the way to touch my chest as opposed to only bringing it a few inches above my chest on bench. So yesterday I did for the first time 11 reps at 195 without a spotter and 205 for 5 reps with another 2 reps with a spotter which I don't count.

I am 5'9.5 and 193 lbs.

I am looking forward to doing 10 reps at 225 and beyond!
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Congratulations man.

You should try and get some videos posted and log your training. Would be interesting to see.

Good luck with your training,

Quagmire
 
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congrats brother. Its incredible when you dimiss all the glory, and just concentrate on quality and making training a passion. The weights go up by themselves, your always looking and feeling good. Keep up the good work.
 
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blackbelt2k said:
congrats brother. Its incredible when you dimiss all the glory, and just concentrate on quality and making training a passion. The weights go up by themselves, your always looking and feeling good. Keep up the good work.
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I could not have said it better myself. Quality and humility and respect for every moment leads to bliss.
 
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Charm said:
I could not have said it better myself. Quality and humility and respect for every moment leads to bliss.
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blackbelt2k & charm, you guys...I love little Zen moments like this :)

Charm, that's great work. You stayed within yourself and resisted the
ego and progress still came. I too have discovered the hard way that progress follows form. The lure of the big numbers has phucked me up enough times, I'm a slow learner...
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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spiff said:
dude your at my Bw goal already, how does 190 feel on 5'9" whats your bf look like?
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I feel very strong at this weight. My by is probably 12-14%.
 
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DevanE said:
That's pretty good man!!!! Have you maxed out...?
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Nope. I've never gone for a 1rep max because I'm worried about injuring my shoulders. I always lift within my 3-5 MAX REP zone and make small adjustments over-time.
 
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