"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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195x11 and 205x5 Bench Press - New Personal Best!

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About 5 months ago this year, I started really focussing on quality form in my bench presses. I am slowly bringing the bar all the way to touch my chest as opposed to only bringing it a few inches above my chest on bench. So yesterday I did for the first time 11 reps at 195 without a spotter and 205 for 5 reps with another 2 reps with a spotter which I don't count.

I am 5'9.5 and 193 lbs.

I am looking forward to doing 10 reps at 225 and beyond!
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Congratulations man.

You should try and get some videos posted and log your training. Would be interesting to see.

Good luck with your training,

Quagmire
 

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congrats brother. Its incredible when you dimiss all the glory, and just concentrate on quality and making training a passion. The weights go up by themselves, your always looking and feeling good. Keep up the good work.
 

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blackbelt2k said:
congrats brother. Its incredible when you dimiss all the glory, and just concentrate on quality and making training a passion. The weights go up by themselves, your always looking and feeling good. Keep up the good work.
I could not have said it better myself. Quality and humility and respect for every moment leads to bliss.
 

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Charm said:
I could not have said it better myself. Quality and humility and respect for every moment leads to bliss.
blackbelt2k & charm, you guys...I love little Zen moments like this :)

Charm, that's great work. You stayed within yourself and resisted the
ego and progress still came. I too have discovered the hard way that progress follows form. The lure of the big numbers has phucked me up enough times, I'm a slow learner...
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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spiff said:
dude your at my Bw goal already, how does 190 feel on 5'9" whats your bf look like?
I feel very strong at this weight. My by is probably 12-14%.
 

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DevanE said:
That's pretty good man!!!! Have you maxed out...?
Nope. I've never gone for a 1rep max because I'm worried about injuring my shoulders. I always lift within my 3-5 MAX REP zone and make small adjustments over-time.
 
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