Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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195x11 and 205x5 Bench Press - New Personal Best!

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About 5 months ago this year, I started really focussing on quality form in my bench presses. I am slowly bringing the bar all the way to touch my chest as opposed to only bringing it a few inches above my chest on bench. So yesterday I did for the first time 11 reps at 195 without a spotter and 205 for 5 reps with another 2 reps with a spotter which I don't count.

I am 5'9.5 and 193 lbs.

I am looking forward to doing 10 reps at 225 and beyond!
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Congratulations man.

You should try and get some videos posted and log your training. Would be interesting to see.

Good luck with your training,

Quagmire
 

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congrats brother. Its incredible when you dimiss all the glory, and just concentrate on quality and making training a passion. The weights go up by themselves, your always looking and feeling good. Keep up the good work.
 

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blackbelt2k said:
congrats brother. Its incredible when you dimiss all the glory, and just concentrate on quality and making training a passion. The weights go up by themselves, your always looking and feeling good. Keep up the good work.
I could not have said it better myself. Quality and humility and respect for every moment leads to bliss.
 

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Charm said:
I could not have said it better myself. Quality and humility and respect for every moment leads to bliss.
blackbelt2k & charm, you guys...I love little Zen moments like this :)

Charm, that's great work. You stayed within yourself and resisted the
ego and progress still came. I too have discovered the hard way that progress follows form. The lure of the big numbers has phucked me up enough times, I'm a slow learner...
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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spiff said:
dude your at my Bw goal already, how does 190 feel on 5'9" whats your bf look like?
I feel very strong at this weight. My by is probably 12-14%.
 

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DevanE said:
That's pretty good man!!!! Have you maxed out...?
Nope. I've never gone for a 1rep max because I'm worried about injuring my shoulders. I always lift within my 3-5 MAX REP zone and make small adjustments over-time.
 
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