penkitten
Master Don Juan
no i caught it with a condom.Thai Foon said:
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
11 warning signs that she may have herpes.
- Thread starter MDgood
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
MDgood
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penkitten, thanks for the honesty... seriously... you've helped a lot of people with that comment.penkitten said:
penkitten
Master Don Juan
i was more of an advocate speaking out about it, a few years ago when i caught it , and there are some threads in health and fitness that are all merged together. i have had it for a little over 5 years.MDgood said:
most people start a thread when they see a little bump on them that turns out to be nothing.
when i got it, i was so sick, that i honestly thought i had some severe flu, until the outbreak came, and then immediately i went to the std clinic.
the outbreak did not start off by itching, it was massive hard bumps that ached so bad under the skin.
i thought i was dying...
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
oakraiderz2
Master Don Juan
Hmmm...so im assuming all bumbs that are down there are herpes? Damn...
I'm Joe Dirt
Master Don Juan
Genital herpes may be caused by either HSV 1 or HSV 2. Meaning if you get cold sores on your mouth and you go down on a chick, she will get genital herpes and it will be HSV-1. It works the other way too, if she blows you and she has cold sores on her mouth (which many if not most people do) you can get sores down there.
From some STD research I've done (as I have cold sore outbreaks on my mouth and I was worried about spreading it) it seems that if you get HSV-1 cold sores on your mouth you may be much more resistant, if not immune, to HSV-2 which causes genital herpes, and pretty much 100% immunte to genital herpes caused by HSV-1 (which represents only a small percentage of genital herpes in the USA but nearly half if not more than half of genital herpes in the UK).
This is because you can only get infected with a certain strain once, and it is very rare for a strain you already have to infect another part of the body (very rare, though not unheard of).
Still, its not a good idea to do anyone dirty. And I am not a doctor so feel free to verify this information elsewhere.
From some STD research I've done (as I have cold sore outbreaks on my mouth and I was worried about spreading it) it seems that if you get HSV-1 cold sores on your mouth you may be much more resistant, if not immune, to HSV-2 which causes genital herpes, and pretty much 100% immunte to genital herpes caused by HSV-1 (which represents only a small percentage of genital herpes in the USA but nearly half if not more than half of genital herpes in the UK).
This is because you can only get infected with a certain strain once, and it is very rare for a strain you already have to infect another part of the body (very rare, though not unheard of).
It seems like you would be far less prone.
Still, its not a good idea to do anyone dirty. And I am not a doctor so feel free to verify this information elsewhere.
penkitten
Master Don Juan
i am a womandot said:
and no you can not always see the signs
if she caught herpes yesterday, she may not show signs for two weeks.
some say they never showed signs...
therefore professionals say you do not have to have a cold sore present to pass the herpes virus.
penkitten
Master Don Juan
no, some can be ingrown hair or whatever.oakraiderz2 said:
some could be warts (just as bad)
just be weary...be on the lookout for anything you dont like.
penkitten
Master Don Juan
the initial outbreak just lets you know when you caught the herpes and is kinda like chicken pox.
after that you can have break outs due to your health stress and what you eat.
think of it like chicken pox (same family and closest thing i can compare)
you catch it and dont know you have it and are contagious.
in one to two weeks, you have inflamed lymph nodes and a fever and hard bumps that are on your body coming out making these big pimple things that are filled with puss, if they pop they can spread to create more.
once they dry up ...
due to health conditions, stress and diet, it can reoccur just like chicken pox can lead to shingle outbreaks.
the only difference is..
chicken pox stops being contagious when you break out, where as herpes is the gift that keeps giving forever.
i honestly do not believe people who say they never knew, i think they lie.
but i can not prove it so i keep my mouth shut, however because so many say they did not have signs of it and their partners get it anyhow... they tell you that you can get it without an outbreak (coldsores) present.
so many people have not passed theirs to their loved ones because they do not have skin contact during an outbreak. seems to work for them..
BE WEARY OF EVERYONE WITH OR WITHOUT A COLDSORE ANYHOW.
after that you can have break outs due to your health stress and what you eat.
think of it like chicken pox (same family and closest thing i can compare)
you catch it and dont know you have it and are contagious.
in one to two weeks, you have inflamed lymph nodes and a fever and hard bumps that are on your body coming out making these big pimple things that are filled with puss, if they pop they can spread to create more.
once they dry up ...
due to health conditions, stress and diet, it can reoccur just like chicken pox can lead to shingle outbreaks.
the only difference is..
chicken pox stops being contagious when you break out, where as herpes is the gift that keeps giving forever.
i honestly do not believe people who say they never knew, i think they lie.
but i can not prove it so i keep my mouth shut, however because so many say they did not have signs of it and their partners get it anyhow... they tell you that you can get it without an outbreak (coldsores) present.
so many people have not passed theirs to their loved ones because they do not have skin contact during an outbreak. seems to work for them..
BE WEARY OF EVERYONE WITH OR WITHOUT A COLDSORE ANYHOW.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Goddamn you people need some critical thinking and statistics classes. I swear you just make numbers up or have the right numbers while ignoring the rest.
Just making a number up... say there's a 5% failure rate of condoms. That's for EVERY BLOODY FREAKIN MORON USING THEM. If you're stupid, that failure rate is higher. If you're smart, that rate is lower. If you have sex only sober it's different. So that pretty much means all these rates that people probably just make up anyway don't even mean crap. Saying a statistic and leaving out how that statistic came about and what information it was based on you might as well just say "i like monkeys" because that's just as useful information.
"your chance is 50% plus or minus 40%" is useless!!
Just making a number up... say there's a 5% failure rate of condoms. That's for EVERY BLOODY FREAKIN MORON USING THEM. If you're stupid, that failure rate is higher. If you're smart, that rate is lower. If you have sex only sober it's different. So that pretty much means all these rates that people probably just make up anyway don't even mean crap. Saying a statistic and leaving out how that statistic came about and what information it was based on you might as well just say "i like monkeys" because that's just as useful information.
"your chance is 50% plus or minus 40%" is useless!!
penkitten
Master Don Juan
thats what i am trying to get at dot...dot said:
you can never read a book by its cover.
always wear a condom
always be on the look at for some one you are dating to not be feeling well, or for something that looks off.
oakraiderz2
Master Don Juan
hmmm...some might be ingrown hairs. i have a single bump, i dont think its herpes cause it doesnt look like it would be.penkitten said:
penkitten
Master Don Juan
do you have a fever?oakraiderz2 said:
do you have swollen lymph nodes?
did the bump begin as a hard knot under the skin, that rose up, and now looks like a single chicken pox?
does is ache in horrible pain?
if you answered no to all of those, i bet it is just an ingrown hair or boil.
which every one gets at one point or another.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
My friend dated a girl with it for a while. They had safe sex and he was fine.
It isn't the end of the world, but it does make sleeping around a tough thing to do I'm sure. If I had it I wouldn't want to spread it, and **** like this would keep me from having ONS because I wouldn't want to spread it.
This is why aspiring to be the worlds best PUA isn't without potential consequences. I no longer want to bang every girl out there, because I am in a great LTR (I still like looking alot), but everyone should remember the consequences.
Sometimes I am surprised there isn't a little Ricky running around out there.
It isn't the end of the world, but it does make sleeping around a tough thing to do I'm sure. If I had it I wouldn't want to spread it, and **** like this would keep me from having ONS because I wouldn't want to spread it.
This is why aspiring to be the worlds best PUA isn't without potential consequences. I no longer want to bang every girl out there, because I am in a great LTR (I still like looking alot), but everyone should remember the consequences.
Sometimes I am surprised there isn't a little Ricky running around out there.
penkitten
Master Don Juan
ever see a valtrex commercial?dot said:
they say in the commercial that 70 % of people say they caught it from a partner who showed no signs of having herpes.
i tend to think a lot of people lie and that they did know they had it before, but they lied to save face... and i tend to think that a lot of people catch it and then spread it before they have their first out break and do it unknowingly...
regardless, that is why they say you can catch it even if there are no outbreaks present (cold sores)
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.