"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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doctor1996

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In all seriousness, have you ever thought about finishing med school then concentrating on women? We all have to take some time away from women in order to order to reach personal goals and unfortunately I've seen women stall or even derail a guy's future. You're young dude. I wouldn't go too far out of your way just to get chicks.
Still in undergrad
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Toddz

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I work in medicine and the above post by jaymbrs is absolutely spot on. Focus on your career and reaching your goals. By your username it sounds like you are studying to become a doctor? If this is true, then the absolute last thing on your mind should be women. I would even go far to say that you should not date until after you have completed your residency.
 

doctor1996

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I work in medicine and the above post by jaymbrs is absolutely spot on. Focus on your career and reaching your goals. By your username it sounds like you are studying to become a doctor? If this is true, then the absolute last thing on your mind should be women. I would even go far to say that you should not date until after you have completed your residency.
Yes that is correct. I have a lot of **** going on in my life, and I don't know where to begin. Additionally, I've been side tracked with getting girls. But I feel like if I focus on studying like I did before, I will never be able to talk to girls . Yet even get in a relationship. My biggest fear is getting an arranged marriage. My family is from one of the brown people countries, and it's acceptable there.
 

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I asked her how she was feeling about her midterm and was typing then stopped... And hasn't replied
Look at what you just wrote. You asked a girl how she feels about a midterm. Midterms typically aren’t a sexy topic and talking about is like talking about the weather.

There are a 1000 ways talk to a woman just be interesting, flirt, be patient, and do reveal too much. It’s about giving a woman a taste of who you are (a fun, interesting, happening guy) not giving her the whole picture.

Be a movie trailer don’t be the movie until she’s dying to see it.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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doctor1996

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I think my issue lies on the fact that I don't actually have a hobby, or something I like to do.. Unless it relates to my goals. I think if I can find an interesting hobby, build rapport, I can go on a plethora of dates.

The looks department, I'm fine.
 

Asasione

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I think my issue lies on the fact that I don't actually have a hobby, or something I like to do.. Unless it relates to my goals. I think if I can find an interesting hobby, build rapport, I can go on a plethora of dates.

The looks department, I'm fine.
You've already gotten a ton of advise, so I'll just chime in that personally I prefer building rapport as much as possible before asking for the number, if she has a fun time chatting with you and you ask for her number she will be excited to talk to you. I prefer calling if possible since it's easier to gauge but texting do the same as others have suggested. It will take a lot of time and effort to get good at it and considering you're a medical student, you could easily mess your studies up.

Worse yet if you start getting successful women pretend to care about your priorities but they will dominate all your time so tread carefully. Also hobbies are for you, most won't be useful for getting women, I play soccer (and various other sports though not regularly), enjoy various types of books, comics and do programming, can't talk about most of that with women other than passing mentions.
 

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Based on their texts, these women look like real pieces of work for any DJ. They seem to text with with the attention span and writing skills of a house fly.
It's simply called lack of interest. If they were actually interested they wouldn't respond like that. OP, could it be possible these women are giving you their number so you will leave then alone? You did say you were somewhat socially inept...just a thought
 
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