Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Totally agree. If you eat clean 80-90% of the time you'll be ok.Espi said:
Shows it's all in the head.speakeasy said:
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
I've been able to stop drinking soda because of the new flavored, no calorie, bottled waters that are out. I've found one that taste like Dr. Pepper and another that taste like Sprite, all is good with the world. As for my chocolate fix, I've found 90 calorie, 3g of carbs fudge pops that taste like a Wendy's Frosty (on a stick). Now I just need to find a substitute for Jelly Belly jelly beans...speakeasy said:
Yeah, I've heard about them too but after spending a few months researching it I hadn't found any substantial evidence of any of it being harmful. I wasn't searching Wikipedia either, I've checked with the AMA, NMA and the BMA. There hasn't been enough time to gather substantial information for an accurate study. I'll put it like this, there's more substantiated information about the bad additives they put into sports drinks. Oh well, we're all eventually die some day...speakeasy said:
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.