"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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10 things NEVER to say to a woman

Weezy

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Regarding #7


I was gonna stop by and look at a store this chick told me about on our last date, but I forgot.

She txt'd me a couple days later, told me she had fun with me.. etc, and I mentioned that I had forgot to check out that store..

Would that qualify has breaking #7? I really did wanna check the fn store out...
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Good stuff, all of those points make good sense and I made some of those mistakes myself especially #7 #8 and #2, need to learn from that.
 

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dbot said:
I've always been a fan of, "you were my first... how'd I do?"
I always say '500' and when they give me that look, I say 'just kidding, I only slept with 75 girls'. :p

But I love this post. THese were all things I was guilty of in the past, especially talking about insecurities. It feels so... Disney like, so intimate to share your biggest fears. But I guess the real world will never be a fairytale.


Please write more of these dont's.
 

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Add this to the list.

#13 (After being turned down for sex) "So... how about a blow job?"
 

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BUMP.

Sometimes it's fun to dig up old threads and see if you still agree with them, and I actually agree with pretty much everything I wrote still. The only thing I might change is that it CAN be ok to ask a girl to go steady with you. It's not necessarily unmanly, just a case-by-case thing.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Colossus said:
BUMP.

Sometimes it's fun to dig up old threads and see if you still agree with them, and I actually agree with pretty much everything I wrote still. The only thing I might change is that it CAN be ok to ask a girl to go steady with you. It's not necessarily unmanly, just a case-by-case thing.
Wish this bump would have been before this weekend.

Was texting with the chick I'm seeing and I dissed this guy friend / dude that likes her that she's dissed on quite a bit. Was funny stuff but damn, wish I could have take it back.
 

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This is a pretty good thread. Interesting stuff here.

I disagree with number 2. Well maybe not disagree but I would add an addendum. There is a thing I have written about called "vulnerability game." Others have talked about it but it gets tossed under the rug. Now these vulnerabilities can be made up or they can be real, doesn't matter. As long as you know when to share these types of things they can definitely draw her closer to you. The key is using it sporadically. Of course don't be some drag-me-down dude with all these fears/insecurities. But in order to progress with women and get attachment you do need to have a few human instances of vulnerability.
 

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Thanks. Still learning. Much needed at all stages of game/life.
 

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"I'll give you time to think about it" (after asking her out)....this line seems harmless but you regret it later on when she comes back to you with a NO
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Nutz said:
0. "I like you."


No single phrase will destroy a woman's attraction for a man better than this one.
Fvck my AFC self!!! Thankfully I recovered from that and girls my age are easier .... god. I was so freaking AFC .......
 

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The dating game is so damm annoying which is why I prefer to look for intimate encounters
 
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