"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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1 most important thing to attract women

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BE A MAN.

Women respect you for being a man, women disrespect wimps, pvssies.

So first of all, they gotta find you attractive and then fall for you being a man.

If she's attracted, she respects you for having a masculine frame you can get her to invite all her (girl)friends to have a orgie with you only because she fears losing you.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I agree. But for someone who doesn't know how to materialize that concept, it's hard to take the necessary steps. The best solution is to imagine a time where you have been extremely busy. People were calling and texting you all the time, but you had deadlines to meet or projects to finish. Maybe you needed to work out in the evenings, so it was hard getting hold of you. You didn't realize why people were blowing your phone up. It even annoyed you. And that's exactly the sweet spot. Having too much on your plate.

It's stressful at times, but it's the only way not to worry about trivialities like who's available or what a woman thinks. Also, time moves faster when you're busy, so that you won't even realize how much goes by before someone calls or texts you.
 

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I agree. But for someone who doesn't know how to materialize that concept, it's hard to take the necessary steps. The best solution is to imagine a time where you have been extremely busy. People were calling and texting you all the time, but you had deadlines to meet or projects to finish. Maybe you needed to work out in the evenings, so it was hard getting hold of you. You didn't realize why people were blowing your phone up. It even annoyed you. And that's exactly the sweet spot. Having too much on your plate.

It's stressful at times, but it's the only way not to worry about trivialities like who's available or what a woman thinks. Also, time moves faster when you're busy, so that you won't even realize how much goes by before someone calls or texts you.
This is a great analogy
 

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BE A MAN.

Women respect you for being a man, women disrespect wimps, pvssies.

So first of all, they gotta find you attractive and then fall for you being a man.

If she's attracted, she respects you for having a masculine frame you can get her to invite all her (girl)friends to have a orgie with you only because she fears losing you.
I think that goes the other way...she can BECOME attracted even if she is on the fence or maybe not so much initially if she sees that side of you. It's obviously much easier if she is already attracted to you but the feelings you can ultimately provide when she is around are you are going to decide how attracted she is long term.
 

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Yep I agree with the OP. Quoting myself from many times before, "Looks get you in the door, frame decides how long you say"
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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@Lynx nkaf liked my post. This figures. She is the only member on this board who knows how I look like. People like @RickTheToad who claim I am making a choice would change his mind if he saw my photo too.
 

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Yep I agree with the OP. Quoting myself from many times before, "Looks get you in the door, frame decides how long you say"
Initially this is true. BUT the longer you know a woman the more chances she has to decide to like other things about you than your looks which then allows frame to be more important overall...

This is why you see the hot chick with the ugly or fat dude. Because he believes he is good enough for her and eventually she ends up believing it too
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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