"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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1 most important thing to attract women

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BE A MAN.

Women respect you for being a man, women disrespect wimps, pvssies.

So first of all, they gotta find you attractive and then fall for you being a man.

If she's attracted, she respects you for having a masculine frame you can get her to invite all her (girl)friends to have a orgie with you only because she fears losing you.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I agree. But for someone who doesn't know how to materialize that concept, it's hard to take the necessary steps. The best solution is to imagine a time where you have been extremely busy. People were calling and texting you all the time, but you had deadlines to meet or projects to finish. Maybe you needed to work out in the evenings, so it was hard getting hold of you. You didn't realize why people were blowing your phone up. It even annoyed you. And that's exactly the sweet spot. Having too much on your plate.

It's stressful at times, but it's the only way not to worry about trivialities like who's available or what a woman thinks. Also, time moves faster when you're busy, so that you won't even realize how much goes by before someone calls or texts you.
 

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I agree. But for someone who doesn't know how to materialize that concept, it's hard to take the necessary steps. The best solution is to imagine a time where you have been extremely busy. People were calling and texting you all the time, but you had deadlines to meet or projects to finish. Maybe you needed to work out in the evenings, so it was hard getting hold of you. You didn't realize why people were blowing your phone up. It even annoyed you. And that's exactly the sweet spot. Having too much on your plate.

It's stressful at times, but it's the only way not to worry about trivialities like who's available or what a woman thinks. Also, time moves faster when you're busy, so that you won't even realize how much goes by before someone calls or texts you.
This is a great analogy
 

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BE A MAN.

Women respect you for being a man, women disrespect wimps, pvssies.

So first of all, they gotta find you attractive and then fall for you being a man.

If she's attracted, she respects you for having a masculine frame you can get her to invite all her (girl)friends to have a orgie with you only because she fears losing you.
I think that goes the other way...she can BECOME attracted even if she is on the fence or maybe not so much initially if she sees that side of you. It's obviously much easier if she is already attracted to you but the feelings you can ultimately provide when she is around are you are going to decide how attracted she is long term.
 

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Yep I agree with the OP. Quoting myself from many times before, "Looks get you in the door, frame decides how long you say"
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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@Lynx nkaf liked my post. This figures. She is the only member on this board who knows how I look like. People like @RickTheToad who claim I am making a choice would change his mind if he saw my photo too.
 

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Yep I agree with the OP. Quoting myself from many times before, "Looks get you in the door, frame decides how long you say"
Initially this is true. BUT the longer you know a woman the more chances she has to decide to like other things about you than your looks which then allows frame to be more important overall...

This is why you see the hot chick with the ugly or fat dude. Because he believes he is good enough for her and eventually she ends up believing it too
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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