“We have too much sex”

[flowtheory]

Believe it or not, too much sex can hurt attraction. Too much of anything does. Next time you’re with her, let her initiate everything. Act like you don’t want it. She’ll probably jump your bones.

Interesting. But yes. I’ll do my best. Will be really difficult. I doubt I’ll be able to hold back. But I’ll sure as sh!t try

 

[EyeBRollin]

Interesting. But yes. I’ll do my best. Will be really difficult. I doubt I’ll be able to hold back. But I’ll sure as sh!t try

Therein lies the problem. Self control is masculine. You better find it if you want to keep her around for a long time.

 

[Roober]

What shes likely saying is that she wants to do more with you. 27 hours minus sleep and 9ther stuff and your looking at 3-6 times within a 15-20 hour timeframe.

I'm just trying to understand how you are either exaggerating greatly, or just hanging out at home, or you are fvcking in cars,parks, and other public places.

If you are at home, your or hers, then get out and do things that you both enjoy. It almost sounds like your sexual encounters are becoming routine. Like she comes over, you fvck, you get some dinner or go out, fvck again, sleep fvck again, sleep, fvck again, eat breakfast, fvck again? I'm willing to bet there is a certain bit of predictable behavior in your sexual encounters.

Make the 3-6 times better and she will complain that you aren't fvcking enough.

 

[allancc3]

Girl says she wants less sex.

Sosuave: "Bipolar disorder!" "Covert bipolar!" "Sh1t test!" "Women are evil!" "Ignore her! Just fvck the sh1t out of her all you want!"
WTF?!?

 

[flowtheory]

Therein lies the problem. Self control is masculine. You better find it if you want to keep her around for a long time.

Yes. I merely mean, it’s hard to control the sexual urges when you’re really attracted and obviously enjoy it. I get what you’re saying though.

What shes likely saying is that she wants to do more with you. 27 hours minus sleep and 9ther stuff and your looking at 3-6 times within a 15-20 hour timeframe.

I'm just trying to understand how you are either exaggerating greatly, or just hanging out at home, or you are fvcking in cars,parks, and other public places.

If you are at home, your or hers, then get out and do things that you both enjoy. It almost sounds like your sexual encounters are becoming routine. Like she comes over, you fvck, you get some dinner or go out, fvck again, sleep fvck again, sleep, fvck again, eat breakfast, fvck again? I'm willing to bet there is a certain bit of predictable behavior in your sexual encounters.

Make the 3-6 times better and she will complain that you aren't fvcking enough.

Not exaggerating at all. That’s pointless to embellish on an anonymous forum.

Essentially we do something, have sex, do something, have sex, have sex, do something or laze around, have sex. Morning sex. We’re still quite active given all the sex. But too much sex I suppose takes away from the encounters a touch.

I would probably agree that we need to let off the gas pedal for sex a bit. There may be some routine, predictability, sure.

 

[deaderinred]

Yes. I merely mean, it’s hard to control the sexual urges when you’re really attracted and obviously enjoy it. I get what you’re saying though.


Not exaggerating at all. That’s pointless to embellish on an anonymous forum.

Essentially we do something, have sex, do something, have sex, have sex, do something or laze around, have sex. Morning sex. We’re still quite active given all the sex. But too much sex I suppose takes away from the encounters a touch.

I would probably agree that we need to let off the gas pedal for sex a bit. There may be some routine, predictability, sure.

You sound like a horny teenager with no options and who cant control himself. Keep doing that and you'll see even less sex and more complaints and she will eventually dump your thirsty ass.
Learn some self control and find some hobbies or something.

 

[lizardking82]

You sound like a horny teenager with no options and who cant control himself. Keep doing that and you'll see even less sex and more complaints and she will eventually dump your thirsty ass.
Learn some self control and find some hobbies or something.

Enough pondering a thousand minds here on the forum. Let her do the initiating this weekend, see how often she wants to have sex on her own.

In the end, I've never had a girl complain about too much sex, if anything, girls who are into you will usually want it more than you do.

 

[flowtheory]

Serious case of oneitis developing/happening here.

Hard for that not to happen when in a exclusive and committed relationship

Thirsty much?

Just really horny

Enough pondering a thousand minds here on the forum. Let her do the initiating this weekend, see how often she wants to have sex on her own.

In the end, I've never had a girl complain about too much sex, if anything, girls who are into you will usually want it more than you do.

That’s what the plan is

 

[flowtheory]

You sound like a horny teenager with no options and who cant control himself. Keep doing that and you'll see even less sex and more complaints and she will eventually dump your thirsty ass.
Learn some self control and find some hobbies or something.

I couldn’t imagine her dumping me because we have a lot of sex. But yes, maybe less sex and more outside activities

 

[EyeBRollin]

Put it this way... you want your girlfriend to be the one initiating sex. If she wants it more than you, you’re usually doing things right.

 

[Webb91]

It just means she wants less sex with you for some reason. Maybe she’s worn out. Maybe her vagina hurts with all the sex. Maybe she is losing feelings for you. Maybe she wants sex to feel like it means something and have it rarely or less. Maybe she is getting sex elsewhere. Maybe her sex drives lowered or her hormones are out of whack atm. Or maybe she just wants to cuddle you and feel wanted and not have to be pressured to have sex with you all the time. You just never know. Chill.

 

[flowtheory]

Put it this way... you want your girlfriend to be the one initiating sex. If she wants it more than you, you’re usually doing things right.

Really? I was always under the impression it was the man’s job to initiate. That’s what seduction is all about, no?

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

Often people speak for the sake of it. But often as well, people will give you a half truth, dressed as a socially acceptable statement.

For me, 'we have too much sex' could mean one or both of two things, or variations thereof:
-'We have a lot of sex, but I'm becoming less interested, because (choose any reason whatsoever)'.
-'We don't have ENOUGH of the the sex that I like'.

Don't take a statement like that lightly, if you want to keep the girl in company. A lot of what is said can be brushed off, but certain things are more pertinent. And this is one such occasion.

 

[flowtheory]

Often people speak for the sake of it. But often as well, people will give you a half truth, dressed as a socially acceptable statement.

For me, 'we have too much sex' could mean one or both of two things, or variations thereof:
-'We have a lot of sex, but I'm becoming less interested, because (choose any reason whatsoever)'.
-'We don't have ENOUGH of the the sex that I like'.

Don't take a statement like that lightly, if you want to keep the girl in company. A lot of what is said can be brushed off, but certain things are more pertinent. And this is one such occasion.

She brought more of it up today when we met for a walk at lunch.
She doesn’t want to just do it because we can. She would rather have quality than quantity, and 6 times in two days is just TOO much for her. And us having sex all the time takes away from us doing other things outside of the house which would contribute more substance to the relationship. And all the sex makes her feel sedated to the point where she feels like a blob and doesn’t want to be in that state constantly; a lot of brain chemicals.

My gathering of it all from various perspectives here and her is:
1. She doesn’t want to feel like a piece of meat and wants more diversity in other areas in our relationship
2. Its simply too much sex for her (she even said she’s never had this much sex)
3. More isn’t always better; of anything.
4. It feels routine or predictable

So this weekend, I’m going to dial it back and let her come to me. Focus on areas that aren’t geared towards the sexual aspects. And as always, recalibrate how I interact with her to increase value in other areas.

She certainly not the type to state things in a socially acceptable manner. She’s very blunt and honest so the reasons she states I can actually take at face value.

I don’t believe it’s an interest thing or something deeper, such as you stated in your first point. We’re currently booking a trip together in August and she is always receptive to any date, text, phone call when I reach out. Now, if she was saying we have too much sex, and she was ignoring or acting distant, I would be looking at my exit.

 

[SoSuave666]

Is this the same one that said your foreskin turned her off? Or is that someone else?

 

[lizardking82]

She brought more of it up today when we met for a walk at lunch.
She doesn’t want to just do it because we can. She would rather have quality than quantity, and 6 times in two days is just TOO much for her. And us having sex all the time takes away from us doing other things outside of the house which would contribute more substance to the relationship. And all the sex makes her feel sedated to the point where she feels like a blob and doesn’t want to be in that state constantly; a lot of brain chemicals.

My gathering of it all from various perspectives here and her is:
1. She doesn’t want to feel like a piece of meat and wants more diversity in other areas in our relationship
2. Its simply too much sex for her (she even said she’s never had this much sex)
3. More isn’t always better; of anything.
4. It feels routine or predictable

So this weekend, I’m going to dial it back and let her come to me. Focus on areas that aren’t geared towards the sexual aspects.

Listen, my man: this weekend is only a test you're making for you to understand how much this woman is into having sex with you. If she wants to have it once or twice in two days and you are OK with 6 or more, it's going to be kind of hard for you to keep on.

Everyone here is telling you to "dial into other things", I would not go that way. If you as a man want to have sex 6 times in two days, you have the right to do that. The feeling of wanting to bang is not wrong. Feelings are, in general, never wrong. Our reasoning over them is. I don't want you to think "Oh, I maybe want to have TOO MUCH sex, so I'll dial it back". No, you won't dial it back. Some men wanna bang once a week, some men wanna bang once a day, some men more, some men less. It's the same sh1t with women, you just gotta find the one that fits you better in this aspect.

Me and my girlfriend have sex one day a week. In about 2-3 hours we have it at least twice and if she stayed a couple of hours more, another two times would make it 3 or 4 times averaging more than you do. I never heard my girlfriend say "You're sexing me too much". I would personally find that weird. Maybe your GFs libido is lower than yours. Who knows. But remember, the weekend thing is not you changing for her, it's you testing and checking out where she stands regarding this.

 

[flowtheory]

Is this the same one that said your foreskin turned her off? Or is that someone else?

Same one. She said she has preference for uncircumcised, and a circumsiced isn’t a deal breaker.
It made me super uneasy after she originally said that info, because I can’t change it. But, after she had given my my first bl0wjob she was really extatic about my penis and paid it all the compliments. I’ve also been her only guy who has been circumsiced

 

[lizardking82]

Same one. She said she has preference for uncircumcised, and a circumsiced isn’t a deal breaker.
It made me super uneasy after she originally said that info, because I can’t change it. But, after she had given my my first ******* she was really extatic about my penis and paid it all the compliments. I’ve also been her only guy who has been circumsiced

Oh whatever, seems like just a spoiled woman. Again, in the about 30 women I've had sex with until now never heard one of them say anything about circumcised or not or "too much, too little sex".

 

[mrgoodstuff]

She brought more of it up today when we met for a walk at lunch.
She doesn’t want to just do it because we can. She would rather have quality than quantity, and 6 times in two days is just TOO much for her. And us having sex all the time takes away from us doing other things outside of the house which would contribute more substance to the relationship. And all the sex makes her feel sedated to the point where she feels like a blob and doesn’t want to be in that state constantly; a lot of brain chemicals.

My gathering of it all from various perspectives here and her is:
1. She doesn’t want to feel like a piece of meat and wants more diversity in other areas in our relationship
2. Its simply too much sex for her (she even said she’s never had this much sex)
3. More isn’t always better; of anything.
4. It feels routine or predictable

So this weekend, I’m going to dial it back and let her come to me. Focus on areas that aren’t geared towards the sexual aspects. And as always, recalibrate how I interact with her to increase value in other areas.

She certainly not the type to state things in a socially acceptable manner. She’s very blunt and honest so the reasons she states I can actually take at face value.

I don’t believe it’s an interest thing or something deeper, such as you stated in your first point. We’re currently booking a trip together in August and she is always receptive to any date, text, phone call when I reach out. Now, if she was saying we have too much sex, and she was ignoring or acting distant, I would be looking at my exit.

Add one or two offdays or a rejection.

 

[flowtheory]

Listen, my man: this weekend is only a test you're making for you to understand how much this woman is into having sex with you. If she wants to have it once or twice in two days and you are OK with 6 or more, it's going to be kind of hard for you to keep on.

Everyone here is telling you to "dial into other things", I would not go that way. If you as a man want to have sex 6 times in two days, you have the right to do that. The feeling of wanting to bang is not wrong. Feelings are, in general, never wrong. Our reasoning over them is. I don't want you to think "Oh, I maybe want to have TOO MUCH sex, so I'll dial it back". No, you won't dial it back. Some men wanna bang once a week, some men wanna bang once a day, some men more, some men less. It's the same sh1t with women, you just gotta find the one that fits you better in this aspect.

Me and my girlfriend have sex one day a week. In about 2-3 hours we have it at least twice and if she stayed a couple of hours more, another two times would make it 3 or 4 times averaging more than you do. I never heard my girlfriend say "You're sexing me too much". I would personally find that weird. Maybe your GFs libido is lower than yours. Who knows. But remember, the weekend thing is not you changing for her, it's you testing and checking out where she stands regarding this.

Good response. I mean, 6 times is a lot for two days. I don’t expect that to be steady. Sex ebbs and flows and I can understand that it is not sustainable.
Even I felt sedated and a touch loopy at the end of the weekend on Monday. I had a bit of a headache, like her, from maybe all the brain chemicals even. (Anyone else get this?)

She has a high sex drive and I don’t think we’re conpletely off in that regard. I haven’t been this high in libido consistently with anyone else so it’s even taking me off guard.

A few people are right where I am acting like a horny teenager. I am a bit all over her and should actually dial that back as it is loosening the sexual tension.

I would be very happy with sex once a day. And going forward maybe 3 times a weekend. I also believe she wants our relationship just not to consist of just sex.