Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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“Should work for me”

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When asking a girl out and you get any variance of the following response, what do you say?

“Yes, that should work for me!” Or “Yes, I should be free then!”


Do you just continue and setup the time and location? Or do you do a Corey Wayne style of takeaway?

Also, this would be via text messaging and not on the phone or in-person.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Also, this would be via text messaging and not on the phone or in-person.
Firstly yes. Cuz ‘should’... political prostitution. Girl has game.


Secondly. Forget text for asking out. Or be prepaired to say no to a lot of them. Betas ask over text you see. Call. Have conversation. Ask.
 

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This game takes thought and detail. NFL qb comes to mind. The guys who ignore the details are the ones who play like the Browns did last night lol
Speaking for myself, I do far better when I get out of my head, as opposed to analyzing every little thing.
Regardless, even if you are correct, the OP is over-analyzing and worrying about things that don't matter. If the girl is low interest, that will reveal itself in other ways eventually, you can't really draw that conclusion from the one sentence that she said here ("should work for me").
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I see OP as trying to learn better ways to handle his situations if my memory serves me correctly from his other posts. Just my .02.
Analyzing texts and how to read this covert language of women imo is the 50-70% area with 50% of the pill is knowledge itself.
Stringpuller is correct in this statement. However I can see how it borders the line of over analyzing. I am trying to improve, and also ditch the occasional over-thinking that can sometimes cause stress or anxiety.
 

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You simply cannot have this level of nickel and diming overthinking everything she says in this Game, it's the wrong perspective
You realize you were conversing with the biggest nickel-and-dimer in the forum lol
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Did not read most reply.

But imo this situation can be avoided by asking when she is available.
If its not clear it mean low interest.
 

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Product of the times but back in the day was a strong masculine indicator. Not today.
Resources and indifference lead the charge these days. On to the 2020's
Girls with nice careers are still thinking a man should be a full provider...
 

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Interesting how the subject changes overtime.

I think certain people are now putting way way way more thought into this than I ever did, but they accused me of doing so.

I double booked dates for that night and if both stay true, I’m cancelling on the “should” girl - also because she’s been delaying her texts a full day or more, whereas the other is a second date with a girl who shows good IOIs
 

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"That should be good for me" = that's good for me, but I don't want to come off as too eager

Unless she flakes. Which she may.

Don't overthink it.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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