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I had a thread talking about the issues I had trying to build a consistent rotation before: here is another one.

This is probably the second most common issue I face when trying to build up a consistent rotation. After I fvck the girl for a while, she starts talking about how she wants me to be her boyfriend. If I wanted an LTR this would be perfect. But I want to be single, and get my n-count up super super high.

So I always end up dodging or dancing around the question. And then I end up ghosted.

I know it says in the book of YaReally that any girl you bang for an extended amount of time will eventually want to be your girlfriend. I’ve found that to be true.

But is there anything that can be done to sidestep this issue, and keep my rotation more solid? I know one solution is to just go out and Game more, to replace any girls that drop off. But I want to think about retention strategies in tandem with that: because going out to Game all the time can be very exhausting. Work smarter, not harder right?

I’ll probably read on and make my own thread for how to build/maintain a rotation. I’ll probably watch some Alpha Male Strategies videos as well.

But I’d like to know how you all deal with the “I want a boyfriend” issue.
 

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There is no solution. Girls are natural to relationships. When they find a guy they are comfortable with, they'll start asking to do more stuff with them, basically turning you unofficially into a boyfriend. It happened to me and I had to promptly pull out before it got too serious. In truth, as men we should be locking down women we like. You do not have to be a player. You can choose to have a gf if you want to. When spinning plates, you are not going to have a harem of women on speed dial unless you are a top status man. You will always have to keep replenishing your ranks.
 

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One suggestion I've heard on here is to only talk to them 1-2 times per month. Regular contact makes you sound more like relationship material. Not sure if it will work, though.
 

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I posted the same question and got some insightful answers. Main take away was; you gotta sell them a dream for as long as possible. The DJS told me to ' embrace the dark traits " I.o.w lying if needed. Tell them lies tell them sweet little lies..

And the thing with AMS is, that he is advocating telling women from the get go they will be in a rotation. Still he has a lotta interesting things to say so check him regardless.

So you either lie to them ,or you tell them straight up you want a rotation. Let us know what worked best for you .
 

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There is no way around this but to bang them good and have a list of demands for your commitment. Try moving the goal posts on her a bit. That buys more time if she still thinks it is attainable. Imagine you have the carrot and are moving it way slowly…
 

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But I’d like to know how you all deal with the “I want a boyfriend” issue.
If you are so charming that they fall madly in love with you, just act like a jerk. She will just want to sleep with you.
 

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Try and avoid seeing a plate more than once a week otherwise she's more likely to get the wrong idea
This was the mistake I made and now I learned from it. We were having constant sex. For me, it was just something to do now and again. I kept it to a week thing and she still got hooked. Then I realized I had been ****ing her for months. The **** game is too good.
 

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I had a thread talking about the issues I had trying to build a consistent rotation before: here is another one.

This is probably the second most common issue I face when trying to build up a consistent rotation. After I fvck the girl for a while, she starts talking about how she wants me to be her boyfriend. If I wanted an LTR this would be perfect. But I want to be single, and get my n-count up super super high.

So I always end up dodging or dancing around the question. And then I end up ghosted.

I know it says in the book of YaReally that any girl you bang for an extended amount of time will eventually want to be your girlfriend. I’ve found that to be true.

But is there anything that can be done to sidestep this issue, and keep my rotation more solid? I know one solution is to just go out and Game more, to replace any girls that drop off. But I want to think about retention strategies in tandem with that: because going out to Game all the time can be very exhausting. Work smarter, not harder right?

I’ll probably read on and make my own thread for how to build/maintain a rotation. I’ll probably watch some Alpha Male Strategies videos as well.

But I’d like to know how you all deal with the “I want a boyfriend” issue.

It's natural. The real question is why do you do you need various women continuously in your life? For backups? For the variety of sex? I used to do it for my ego and the variety.
 

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Try and avoid seeing a plate more than once a week otherwise she's more likely to get the wrong idea
The only women I saw without the relationship talk were the ones, I only saw ocasionally because they didn‘t live in my area or the ones who only contacted me every few weeks or months on their own. Everything elese ended in „When do we get official?“.
So in my experience you‘re just right
 

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There is no solution. Girls are natural to relationships. When they find a guy they are comfortable with, they'll start asking to do more stuff with them, basically turning you unofficially into a boyfriend. It happened to me and I had to promptly pull out before it got too serious. In truth, as men we should be locking down women we like. You do not have to be a player. You can choose to have a gf if you want to. When spinning plates, you are not going to have a harem of women on speed dial unless you are a top status man. You will always have to keep replenishing your ranks.
Totally agree with the statement that girls are more relationship minded. I don’t even want to consider a relationship personally right now, I want to max out my n-count instead.

I’m ok with the idea of replacing women as they begin to drop off.

It’s kind of awkward when my mom is always asking me if I have a girlfriend though:rofl:
 
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One suggestion I've heard on here is to only talk to them 1-2 times per month. Regular contact makes you sound more like relationship material. Not sure if it will work, though.
That’s actually a really interesting idea. I’m sure the idea is that ignoring them creates more attraction, yeah?
 

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I posted the same question and got some insightful answers. Main take away was; you gotta sell them a dream for as long as possible. The DJS told me to ' embrace the dark traits " I.o.w lying if needed. Tell them lies tell them sweet little lies..

And the thing with AMS is, that he is advocating telling women from the get go they will be in a rotation. Still he has a lotta interesting things to say so check him regardless.

So you either lie to them ,or you tell them straight up you want a rotation. Let us know what worked best for you .
I’ll have to experiment with different tactics and see what works best with my personality type.

Mind linking me to your thread? I’d be interested in seeing that as well.
 

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There is no way around this but to bang them good and have a list of demands for your commitment. Try moving the goal posts on her a bit. That buys more time if she still thinks it is attainable. Imagine you have the carrot and are moving it way slowly…
So you’d say you make them think they’ll get a relationship instead of being straight up about them being a plate, yeah?
 

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