Nope, it was early in the morning. This was BEFORE the date btw when she was texting her eyeballs off. I think I posted about it before. She was the type that would constantly text to the point it became problematic interfering at work too because I didn't want to lose her so I'd have to keep replying right away hoping she wouldn't grow bored of me not replying to her messages timely.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
“Are you up” text
- Thread starter BJP1991
- Start date
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
RickTheToad
Moderator
How'd you f uck this one up? Let me guess, you kept telling her your life story and the mystery of biggoal in her mind disappeared.. Like a magic trick. The secret to getting into a girls pants once you have her attention is SHUT THE F UCK UP!.
This was the case of that teacher who drove nearly 60 miles for the date. She kept bugging me constantly. She was the one who taught at the very expensive private school and was worried about seen around town by the rich people due to gossip hence she didn't want to date people in her area. She was all over me via texting. Like it was a friday and we were going to meet on a sat but then I suddenly had Fri free. I asked if she wanted to meet that day and she hopped in her car and drove up here right away.
The date went well. She was talkative, smiled, a lot, friendly, laughed, etc. UNTIL I slipped and told her my business was at the fleamarket and then her facial expression and entire mood changed and she wanted to end the date you could tell.
RickTheToad
Moderator
Dude. STOP F UCKING TALKING. Less is more. When they want to chat, you just say, hey, love to chat, but at work. I look forwarding in seeing to tomorrow. This is why you want to see them ASAP, not four days later. If you'd stop second guessing us, you'd get laid already. We all want you to bust your cherry already. At 37, it's too long.
She didn't know I cleaned a couple days a week at night when she was texting me at the other job. if she didn't like the fleamarket do you think she'd like me cleaning up at a grocery store lol?
This was an OLD girl btw. Man, OLD when you think about it is more time consuming than in person game. The problem with me is OLD is my only option as I have nowhere to hang where there are a lot of young folks to have access to. I mean pre wall and I don't want to drive 95 miles to Tampa or 90 miles to St. Pete where the action is.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Can someone do something about this dude...
Since everyone posted all input, just an update: things are going really well with this girl. I sort of kept a little distance shortly after this all happened and she started chasing pretty hard. More frequent sex as well