Nope, it was early in the morning. This was BEFORE the date btw when she was texting her eyeballs off. I think I posted about it before. She was the type that would constantly text to the point it became problematic interfering at work too because I didn't want to lose her so I'd have to keep replying right away hoping she wouldn't grow bored of me not replying to her messages timely.
"Blank Mind on Dates? She's Dropping Hints You Keep Missing"
The plates get cleared and the silence lands like a brick. You can feel her waiting. Your brain offers up your commute, your job, the weather — topics that have ended more second dates than bad breath.
Here's what most guys never learn: women hand out free conversational material all night long. Tiny clues about what they actually want to discuss. Catch them and you never run out of things to say — because she's telling you what to say next.
Rule 4 of the "22 Rules" trains your ear to catch every single one.
“Are you up” text
- Thread starter BJP1991
- Start date
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
RickTheToad
Moderator
How'd you f uck this one up? Let me guess, you kept telling her your life story and the mystery of biggoal in her mind disappeared.. Like a magic trick. The secret to getting into a girls pants once you have her attention is SHUT THE F UCK UP!.
This was the case of that teacher who drove nearly 60 miles for the date. She kept bugging me constantly. She was the one who taught at the very expensive private school and was worried about seen around town by the rich people due to gossip hence she didn't want to date people in her area. She was all over me via texting. Like it was a friday and we were going to meet on a sat but then I suddenly had Fri free. I asked if she wanted to meet that day and she hopped in her car and drove up here right away.
The date went well. She was talkative, smiled, a lot, friendly, laughed, etc. UNTIL I slipped and told her my business was at the fleamarket and then her facial expression and entire mood changed and she wanted to end the date you could tell.
RickTheToad
Moderator
Dude. STOP F UCKING TALKING. Less is more. When they want to chat, you just say, hey, love to chat, but at work. I look forwarding in seeing to tomorrow. This is why you want to see them ASAP, not four days later. If you'd stop second guessing us, you'd get laid already. We all want you to bust your cherry already. At 37, it's too long.
She didn't know I cleaned a couple days a week at night when she was texting me at the other job. if she didn't like the fleamarket do you think she'd like me cleaning up at a grocery store lol?
This was an OLD girl btw. Man, OLD when you think about it is more time consuming than in person game. The problem with me is OLD is my only option as I have nowhere to hang where there are a lot of young folks to have access to. I mean pre wall and I don't want to drive 95 miles to Tampa or 90 miles to St. Pete where the action is.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Can someone do something about this dude...
Since everyone posted all input, just an update: things are going really well with this girl. I sort of kept a little distance shortly after this all happened and she started chasing pretty hard. More frequent sex as well