Nope, it was early in the morning. This was BEFORE the date btw when she was texting her eyeballs off. I think I posted about it before. She was the type that would constantly text to the point it became problematic interfering at work too because I didn't want to lose her so I'd have to keep replying right away hoping she wouldn't grow bored of me not replying to her messages timely.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
“Are you up” text
- Thread starter BJP1991
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
RickTheToad
Moderator
How'd you f uck this one up? Let me guess, you kept telling her your life story and the mystery of biggoal in her mind disappeared.. Like a magic trick. The secret to getting into a girls pants once you have her attention is SHUT THE F UCK UP!.
This was the case of that teacher who drove nearly 60 miles for the date. She kept bugging me constantly. She was the one who taught at the very expensive private school and was worried about seen around town by the rich people due to gossip hence she didn't want to date people in her area. She was all over me via texting. Like it was a friday and we were going to meet on a sat but then I suddenly had Fri free. I asked if she wanted to meet that day and she hopped in her car and drove up here right away.
The date went well. She was talkative, smiled, a lot, friendly, laughed, etc. UNTIL I slipped and told her my business was at the fleamarket and then her facial expression and entire mood changed and she wanted to end the date you could tell.
RickTheToad
Moderator
Dude. STOP F UCKING TALKING. Less is more. When they want to chat, you just say, hey, love to chat, but at work. I look forwarding in seeing to tomorrow. This is why you want to see them ASAP, not four days later. If you'd stop second guessing us, you'd get laid already. We all want you to bust your cherry already. At 37, it's too long.
She didn't know I cleaned a couple days a week at night when she was texting me at the other job. if she didn't like the fleamarket do you think she'd like me cleaning up at a grocery store lol?
This was an OLD girl btw. Man, OLD when you think about it is more time consuming than in person game. The problem with me is OLD is my only option as I have nowhere to hang where there are a lot of young folks to have access to. I mean pre wall and I don't want to drive 95 miles to Tampa or 90 miles to St. Pete where the action is.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Can someone do something about this dude...
Since everyone posted all input, just an update: things are going really well with this girl. I sort of kept a little distance shortly after this all happened and she started chasing pretty hard. More frequent sex as well