¿How to overcome fear of women?

[GAME¤OVER]

Hello, I am doing this with Google Translate since I do not speak English. My problem lies in, as the title says, overcoming the fear of women. When I think about it, it seems easy to approach, but when I'm about to do it, my body simply doesn't want to and it lowers your morale to not be able to do anything. I think that this problem is because I had very little female contact since I was in a school for men all my life, and I had severe acne. Both gave me a terrible fear of rejection. For those of you who find it easy to approach any pretty girl or who perhaps have already gone through something similar, I would appreciate receiving some of your memorable advice, I'm 18.

 

[BillyPilgrim]

Learn to read their minds lmao

 

[Plinco]

Hello, I am doing this with Google Translate since I do not speak English. My problem lies in, as the title says, overcoming the fear of women. When I think about it, it seems easy to approach, but when I'm about to do it, my body simply doesn't want to and it lowers your morale to not be able to do anything. I think that this problem is because I had very little female contact since I was in a school for men all my life, and I had severe acne. Both gave me a terrible fear of rejection. For those of you who find it easy to approach any pretty girl or who perhaps have already gone through something similar, I would appreciate receiving some of your memorable advice, I'm 18.

It's not women you fear, it is what other men might do in response to the women. Think about it. Can a woman physically beat you up? Of course not. It's fathers, brothers, people in "authority" positions, tough guy simps, etc. that you are really afraid of.

Something else you might be afraid of is success. I know that sounds strange. The nature of the human mind is to make sense of the world, and getting something that you don't feel like you deserve (think about how you were conditioned in early childhood), will make you question your own sanity.

As far as your looks are concerned, yes they are important. Some aspects of your looks take years to build, like building a lot of muscle mass or losing excess fat for example, but improving your emotional state is something you can do in the matter of days or weeks and will have a big impact on how you look too.

My problem has some similarities to yours. I approach women, the problem is that I don't do it very effectively because I have a set of beliefs that give me reasons not to feel confident.

 

[crowolf]

Approach anxiety is normal and probably evolutionary ingrained. And it is possible to overcome it, but I think you need to start from the basics.

It sounds like you put women on a pedestal. And you probably are not fully accepting your manly desire towards them. Maybe the thought of you showing your intentions brings anxiety. I’ve been there, too.

At this point my advice to you would be to just be more social. Go out more often, visit events, say “yes” to any invitations, vibe with people, be interested in them. Including women. Just socialise, and have fun. Don’t expect anything in return.

Read a book or two about women. Preferably not the red pill stuff, but something more vanilla like “The Man's Guide to Women”. Maybe put on a Owen Cook video lecture.

I think for now this is enough. Hope it helps.

 

[Gamisch]

Your fear of women should become " truly ne afraid of women. I'll explain: you should get to know them so well that you KNOW how far they can and will go to destroy a man.

This will help you to give "maximum 80 percent " and to ALWAYS be ready for the fallout.

Not fearing women is what gets men in real trouble ....

 

[MatureDJ]

I have found that hiring women (yes, that type of woman), and the way that I can order them around, makes it easy for me to order around women in general.

 

[MatureDJ]

Approach anxiety is normal and probably evolutionary ingrained. And it is possible to overcome it, but I think you need to start from the basics.

It sounds like you put women on a pedestal. And you probably are not fully accepting your manly desire towards them. Maybe the thought of you showing your intentions brings anxiety. I’ve been there, too.

At this point my advice to you would be to just be more social. Go out more often, visit events, say “yes” to any invitations, vibe with people, be interested in them. Including women. Just socialise, and have fun. Don’t expect anything in return.

Read a book or two about women. Preferably not the red pill stuff, but something more vanilla like “The Man's Guide to Women”. Maybe put on a Owen Cook video lecture.

I think for now this is enough. Hope it helps.

I think approach anxiety is a thing because back in the old days, being shunned from the tribe was a death sentence, and so men are attuned to not get shunned - and getting turned down by women is a form of shunning.

 

[MatureDJ]

Learn to read their minds lmao

ESPMax?

 

[BackInTheGame78]

The same way you overcome fear of anything. By taking action and doing exactly what you are afraid of until it no longer makes you fear it.

 

[BadBoy89]

Wait until they turn 30. Your fear will be done like that.

 

[Redwood]

When you realize most are bothersome. Almost like children in a way.

 

[inquisitor]

When I think about it, it seems easy to approach, but when I'm about to do it, my body simply doesn't want to and it lowers your morale to not be able to do anything.

They're a person, you're a person.

In essence, there's nothing to be scared about.

Arousal is often confused for anxiety because it activates the same fight-or-flight response.

Think not you're anxious, think you're excited to meet a girl. Then play it cool, no expectations. Have fun.

 

[MatureDJ]

Hello, I am doing this with Google Translate since I do not speak English. My problem lies in, as the title says, overcoming the fear of women. When I think about it, it seems easy to approach, but when I'm about to do it, my body simply doesn't want to and it lowers your morale to not be able to do anything. I think that this problem is because I had very little female contact since I was in a school for men all my life, and I had severe acne. Both gave me a terrible fear of rejection. For those of you who find it easy to approach any pretty girl or who perhaps have already gone through something similar, I would appreciate receiving some of your memorable advice, I'm 18.

The only language I know that has the upside down question marks (and exclamation points) is Spanish.

 

[The Duke]

I have found that hiring women (yes, that type of woman), and the way that I can order them around, makes it easy for me to order around women in general.

"order them around"....interesting choice of words. Does it make you feel superior because you think they are lesser people?

 

[BPH]

@GAME¤OVER by talking to more women.

 

[Vanderdonck]

The mind believes what you tell it. Do more self talk, affirmations, etc. Rejection is no big deal, anyway.

 

[RangerMIke]

Approach anxiety is normal and probably evolutionary ingrained. And it is possible to overcome it, but I think you need to start from the basics.

It sounds like you put women on a pedestal. And you probably are not fully accepting your manly desire towards them. Maybe the thought of you showing your intentions brings anxiety. I’ve been there, too.

At this point my advice to you would be to just be more social. Go out more often, visit events, say “yes” to any invitations, vibe with people, be interested in them. Including women. Just socialise, and have fun. Don’t expect anything in return.

Read a book or two about women. Preferably not the red pill stuff, but something more vanilla like “The Man's Guide to Women”. Maybe put on a Owen Cook video lecture.

I think for now this is enough. Hope it helps.

True. It's evolutionary going all the way back to early human development when we lived in tight tribal communities. If an early human was ostracized by the 'tribe', they were likely dead. If an early human male was rejected by a female... all the other females would reject him as well since the key to early female survival depended on her ability to attach herself to a strong male and get socially along with other women in the tribe. If a female rejected you, you would find yourself in a hole, you are tagged as a male with low value.

The key to overcoming this intrinsic ancient 'fear' is to realize we don't live in tribal groups, and if things go sideways, you can easily move on. We are no longer attached to fixed tribes that we depended on for survival.

 

[characternote]

 

[Travel memoir21]

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[HaleyBaron]

MatureDJ for once hit on something important. I don't hire escorts, but I have hired women in adjacent fields where they are meant to look pretty. Since I'm use to telling them what to do, I do it in normal life rather easily. You'd be surprise how women react when you tell them to do something. It works on men, too [no I do not swing that way].