« i want to see you but not all night, only 1-2 hours »

[BPH]

last time she told me same « just 1-2h » and ended up asking me to sleepover after sex. She said to me that she was afraid to be seen as too pushy to me

Yeah, like what @BillyPilgrim said, you answered your own question here...

Beyond that, I agree with @Barrister about the love bombing scenario that will likely play out. The fact that she shows you men who are interested in her and justifies herself when you notice her with other men (in her Instagram story, for example) means that she's probably not secure in your attraction to her - which is probably also why she tries to limit her time with you, so she doesn't push you away.

This will probably lead to some issues in the long term.

Beyond that, you really don't have a problem here..."my steak is too juicy, my lobster is too buttery."

 

[BillyPilgrim]

Beyond that, you really don't have a problem here..."my steak is too juicy, my lobster is too buttery."

This chick is going to be closer to heroin than steak lol.

Or maybe a lobster than pinches his balls off. Lolz

 

[BeExcellent]

Advice from the old lady:

Couple of questions OP.

1. When she is physically with you (hanging out/sex/going out, whatever) how active is she on her phone?

2. Is she taking photos/pics constantly, ocassionally, or just once in a while?

3. Does she post photos with you on her social media?

That multi part question will tell you a lot about where you stand. A high interest girl will post photos WITH you on her social media. She will not detract from your one on one time by endlessly being on her phone, which is disrespectful behavior.

She has a pet. Pets have to pee and dogs have to go out for walks if they live inside. I do know people who restrict their socializing to accomodate needs of a dog (lest the dog pees or poops inside the house & nobody wants that).

For me personally, if I'm texting a guy first all the time? He's just a friend, and I treat him like any other friend. In other words I'm not romantically inclined toward him at all.

Not so for men I really like. I wait to see if that guy reaches out & makes an effort. If he makes an effort then I respond warmly and I say "yes" when he wants to have plans.

I have to wonder if you are Mr. Fine For Now until a dude she *really* likes starts hitting her up. If you are just a placeholder that could explain her behavior.

I know that is not what you want to hear, but I think that is a very real possibility.

 

[Bokanovsky]

My question is : Why everytime she proposes to see me, she just says « not all the night, only 1-2 hours » even if sometime she asks me to sleepover after sex

Answer: because women sometimes say stuff they don't mean

 

[Clockwerk50]

It’s hard to take OP seriously, especially considering how he kept bragging in that other thread about banging this girl like it was some kind of milestone, then got defensive when people called him out on his arrogance.

Anyways, if you are not so invested in this girl like you claim to be, why do you care what she says? What is the problem with seeing her for 1–2 hours, getting your balls drained, and then leaving or staying depending on whether she invites you?

On the other hand, if you are indeed into this girl and this hour limit bothers you, why don’t you ask her why she can’t see you more? Like it or not, this is the player lifestyle, and if you want to play it cool and collected, the time limit is one of the strategies to maintain detached sex. It’s all about congruency, and maybe you’re not a player after all. But the reality is, in this kind of setup, you either accept the rules of the game or step out of it because emotional involvement and the player mindset can’t coexist for long. Read about plate theory.

As for the situation, I think this girl wants a relationship, and she is causing dread so you keep chasing. Again, if she is a plate, she will eventually break, and if you don’t want to pay attention to her signals and the little details, the end may be inevitable.

 

[AhGonlum]

I did a **** move.
So as you know I told her no for tonight cause I was going to see another chick then my friends at bar. The bar was very close to her place. Last week she asked me to come after a night out very late

So i called her like an hour ago (time 00:30 here) and I said that I wanted to see her. She said :
« Okay but it’s 0:30… if you want to see me or make time for me, please do it at a better time »

I ****ed the game I guess. I am not bragging or anything, just I think too much so it ****s everytime my games.

 

[plumber]

if she wants a relationship with you to be more dedicated you will let you know. otherwise assume not and continue hunting.

 

[AhGonlum]

Related to late night mistake. She asked me today if I went home safely. So it’s fine I guess

 

[sevbucmash]

My question is : Why everytime she proposes to see me, she just says « not all the night, only 1-2 hours » even if sometime she asks me to sleepover after sex

Because instagram is full time job man, and you are a distraction.

 

[Barrister]

Related to late night mistake. She asked me today if I went home safely. So it’s fine I guess

You are not in a good spot with this woman. Overthinking everything. And you reaching out the way you did wasn’t the greatest- and you know that. I’d leave her be for a day or two and see if she reaches out to you.

 

[Vanderdonck]

You are at best her sidepiece. Stop hamstering and enjoy it.

 

[Clockwerk50]

I did a **** move.
So as you know I told her no for tonight cause I was going to see another chick then my friends at bar. The bar was very close to her place. Last week she asked me to come after a night out very late

So i called her like an hour ago (time 00:30 here) and I said that I wanted to see her. She said :
« Okay but it’s 0:30… if you want to see me or make time for me, please do it at a better time »

I ****ed the game I guess. I am not bragging or anything, just I think too much so it ****s everytime my games.

I still feel like I am being trolled...

Anyways, again, you called her for a booty call. You treat her like a plate, and eventually, it’s going to break. Don’t try to act like a player if in reality, you’re not one.

 

[darksprezzatura]

Why does it matter? Why are you overthinking this? Don’t let your ego take over if you think she’s fun to hang out with. Just go, have fun and calibrate accordingly.

 

[HaleyBaron]

So for context, I go out with this chick for over a month now. She is a pretty little influencer +20k ig, being asked to go out by 200k guys. By the way she is showing me some dms trying to make me jealous ???

In the opposite side I have only 40 instagram followers account. We have met on tinder.
Some weeks we saw each other once, was up to 3 last week. She cooks me dinner, order me food, met her friends, booked an hotel room and trip for both of us end of November. She calls me sometimes.
I have sleptover at her house quite often. And sometimes she asks me to see me just « 1-2hours » which I find pretty funny. So instead tonight I will see another lay I will sleep with all night

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You messed up. Your reply was fine until "Funny how..." You gave the game up. Now she knows you know about it. That was a childish remark by you and now she knows you know. You should have acted ignorant and she would have fixed the problem herself.

And based on the rest of the thread, you're being too clingy. If you want her as a fwb, don't treat her like a "friend." FWB is an oxymoron. Also, get more women into your rotation so you can stop caring about this one.

 

[AhGonlum]

Alright guys need your advice.
She wants a LTR with me. She said that she didn’t like someone that fast before her last relationship. She just told me she had a summer fling this summer. About 3 months but they were not going on cool dates and she didn’t like him. And once she realized she didn’t like him, she dumped him.

What I understand from here is they just ****ed. And I feel stupid trying to do good dates (muzeum and so on…)

And today I realized the guy is on her public instagram highlights which sounds stupid for just a summer « flinge ».
She never tried to show me on her public instagram as this guy.

Two choice :
I don’t give a **** and I just **** her
I remove her

I like her so the best option would be the second I guess

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Alright guys need your advice.
She wants a LTR with me. She said that she didn’t like someone that fast before her last relationship. She just told me she had a summer fling this summer. About 3 months but they were not going on cool dates and she didn’t like him. And once she realized she didn’t like him, she dumped him.

What I understand from here is they just ****ed. And I feel stupid trying to do good dates (muzeum and so on…)

And today I realized the guy is on her public instagram highlights which sounds stupid for just a summer « flinge ».
She never tried to show me on her public instagram as this guy.

Two choice :
I don’t give a **** and I just **** her
I remove her

I like her so the best option would be the second I guess

What has she done to show you she is deserving of having that status in your life?

Outside of fvcking you.

Screen women with your brain, not with your d!ck.

 

[Vanderdonck]

Alright guys need your advice.
She wants a LTR with me. She said that she didn’t like someone that fast before her last relationship. She just told me she had a summer fling this summer. About 3 months but they were not going on cool dates and she didn’t like him. And once she realized she didn’t like him, she dumped him.

What I understand from here is they just ****ed. And I feel stupid trying to do good dates (muzeum and so on…)

And today I realized the guy is on her public instagram highlights which sounds stupid for just a summer « flinge ».
She never tried to show me on her public instagram as this guy.

Two choice :
I don’t give a **** and I just **** her
I remove her

I like her so the best option would be the second I guess

Here's a fact. Most women you date will be coming off of a "fling." There is always some guy she just fukked. Sometimes, it's you.

So what's there to feel stupid about? You either enjoy this woman's non-sexual company or you don't and it's just sex, or it's nothing now.

I think you have some inner game work to get to a level of truly not caring about outcomes. Every man should strive to be so happy with himself that no woman will "complete" him, not even a wife of 30 years.

 

[Barrister]

Alright guys need your advice.
She wants a LTR with me. She said that she didn’t like someone that fast before her last relationship. She just told me she had a summer fling this summer. About 3 months but they were not going on cool dates and she didn’t like him. And once she realized she didn’t like him, she dumped him.

What I understand from here is they just ****ed. And I feel stupid trying to do good dates (muzeum and so on…)

And today I realized the guy is on her public instagram highlights which sounds stupid for just a summer « flinge ».
She never tried to show me on her public instagram as this guy.

Two choice :
I don’t give a **** and I just **** her
I remove her

I like her so the best option would be the second I guess

Basically has confirmed she’s a love bomber. Likely a Cluster B personality. I would absolutely not agree to this this quickly with her. And probably not at all.

 

[AhGonlum]

Guys, I understand that everyone has some flinge because they feel **** without anyone in their life.
But as she told me, using her words « I didn’t like him, was just a summer flinge » that lasted 3 months. I mean you know very quick if you like someone or not.
And she just says that she likes me just after a month.
If you don’t like the guy, why would you post it on public story, while me, the guy she likes I am not in her public story

 

[AhGonlum]

Am I on the good way ?