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Cognitive distortions keep us feeling bad about ourselves. They are inaccurate thoughts not based in reality. I see a lot of these around SoSuave & a lot of posters leaning into distortions. The most common one being "All women are (insert demonic character trait here)" This is not good & it's...

I've been away from the forum for a while. It's given me space to grow & improve my life. I spent FAR too much time on here browsing & being bitter about life, rather than out in the real world living my life! I'm not perfect now, no-one is, but I have learned a few things on the way, which...

The thread by @ImTheDoubleGreatest! about inner vs outer got me thinking about how we improve and what is important in terms of improving in the long term. Whilst I believe that improving your inner self is the most important thing to do, it is useless without improving in other areas. Without...

So today I've realized that I have been a functioning alcoholic. I might not drink for a while, but when I do, it's bad! I went out last night and spent $1500 on booze and strippers, which isn't me! I feel ashamed of myself. I don't have a drink every day problem, but every time I drink it's...

Curious to hear opinions about this fight...

As has been said by great men before me: 'A Don Juan is a state of mind, not a list of methods and tricks' This brings me on to the negative thought processes of the AFC. The man who believes he is just no good and will never have a woman. It is one thing to be rejected by a woman, as happens...

Social media has been a game changer in the past 10 years. What are your thoughts on it? How much do you use it? Is it still relevant to picking up women?

Only this week have I truly grasped the true meaning of the much famed post 'kill that desperation.' Desperation is defined a state of despair, which leads to rash or extreme behaviour. Desperation is not exclusive to dating, it applies to all aspects of life. It is critical to eliminate...

Saw this today... http://www.itv.com/thismorning/hot-topics/my-husband-is-71-but-im-determined-to-have-his-baby Thoughts?

I am pretty buzzed right now and my thought process is clouded. Me and my gf went to a party tonight. Her ex fwb was there, it ended in this guy introducing himself to me. It didn't take me long after he had left to put together who he was as my gf had told me in the past. I am fvcked off...

A close family friend passed away today. Late 40's. Cancer. It serves as a brutal reminder to live in the now. Enjoy life whilst we can. Ask that solid 9 over there to meet you for drinks tonight, you WILL regret it if you don't. Demand to be heard, demand to be successful. Refuse to look...

I turned 24 recently & birthdays have always been a time of reflection for me. This past year has had its ups and downs but I have come out of it a lot wiser, stronger and focused moving forward. Happiness comes first. No amount of cars, money or women will do this for you. Be happy first and...

Ok so I've hit an important point in my life today.. I am 4 years down the line from a gambling addiction, and I've come a long way. I am debt free, own a house & company. I've put a lot into a separate thread called the awakening in terms of mindset and how to act... All of which is good and...

http://www.huffingtonpost.co.uk/lily-lovett/sex-and-great-britain_b_10561886.html I saw this shared on Facebook the other day. I have no words for this, a woman is 'crowned' Miss GB, a role model to young girls. She then goes on TV, literally make the front pages of the papers for fvcking...

A lot goes on in life, in the past 12 months my life is immeasurably different. A lot of events in life are out of your control. For too long, I have sat back and many opportunities, not just with women but in life have flown by me. A huge characteristic of my AFC days was laziness, I wanted...

I've been up and down with fitness for a long time due to injury & the mental effects of the injuries that I've had. I've had several logs & this time I am determined to succeed, set some goals & hit them. I am doing a marathon next April, which I want to do in under 4 hours. I also want to...

I've spend some time away from the forum, which has had it's up's and downs. This is not going to be a guide or a log, just how my mind progress's from being where I am/have been for a long time to where I'm going to be going. I have been on a mental rollercoaster over the past 5 years. From...

Goodbye.. For now I may not be a renowned and majorly active poster on this forum, however I have been active on here for a long time, and it is the only forum that I am a part of. I came here as a scrawny, goofy teenager who lacked self esteem and been on a helluva journey to where I am now...

Working out and women is always a bone of contention. The nay'sayers cry "I see skinny boy over there with hot women, therefore working out is redundant when it comes to matters of love" The bodybuilders cry "I am muscular, I am man, I am alpha, the more muscular you are the more women you...

I went to a festival over the weekend and had the time of my life, I went with my buddy's and absolutely loved it. Whilst I was there, I had a good chance to get completely away from reality and have a deep think about life in general. What dawned on me at one point was the biggest issue...