My own experience is that if a girl asks what I'm looking for then it's usually because she wants to say no. It also implies that she is putting you in the same category as other guys who want something from her.
A reframe is best: "What makes you think I'm expecting anything?"
If you're just trying to be all those things which you think make you more attractive, then you are NOT being attractive. Sounds kinda circular, but it's true. So do less. Be less reactive to girls when they talk to you. Don't think of things to say ahead of time. Just stop caring how they view...
You should drop "game" from your thinking. It's immature and suggests girls need to be "gamed" (ie. they are special). So just act normal and stop trying to get with them. They'll stop using the "game" yardstick against you, and start thinking of you as a genuine cool guy.
I wouldn't read anything into her response as it's obviously a superficial cosmo-clone of a response.
Plus when you ask a girl what she looks for in a guy you are asking her to (hypothetically) assume a dominant position. And since women are attracted to the opposite of that, she can't give...
I usually use IM to set up meets without ever talking on the phone. I also sometimes just exchange a few emails before meeting. You don't need to talk on the phone, although it is nice to hear a voice if you're kinda inexperienced at online and want to make sure.
Asking questions is ideal...
"I *want* her to chase me", IOW "I *want* her to want me". That's like two equal poles of a magnet, they won't attract. That's the wrong mindset. You can't make women chase you, you can only LET them. And they will as long as you aren't playing an active role in trying to make them do...
Unlike men, women tend to "ask" or "hint" rather than just tell you. Problem is when they ask, ask, ask, hint, hint, hint (nagging) - then it becomes a problem.
There's two positions you can play when women do this:
- Be unresponsive to their advances and play hard to get
- Caveman them (no prisoners)
Which one you do really depends on you and what type of person you are. But either way you are in the dominant role.
You can talk for five minutes and the girl will suggest a get together. You don't even need to talk on the phone first.
Main ingredients for this:
- Be chilled out (don't be too eager in responding)
- Act normal (talk about everyday stuff and ask her questions about herself)
In fact...
Yeah, looks can influence somewhat. But hardly a deciding factor. Put another way, looks matter until such time that girls show you that it doesn't matter.
We often hear hype surrounding "naturals". These are men who are good with women without too much conscious effort. But what is really going on with them, and how can YOU become a natural? I'm going to demystify that for you.
Naturals are men who can relate to women in a normal way. They...
Unless you're naturally ****y and funny it's probably not a good thing to ask -you wouldn't be able to keep it going.
Your profile should be a snapshot of your life. Focus mostly on who you are and what you like to do, then put a small provision for who you would like to meet to enjoy that...
I'm kind of introverted too. I believe the statistic is that 40% of the population is naturally introverted.
I can be very social when the occasions present themselves, but those are "active" periods which can wear me out if they go on too long. Being introverted is a state of rest for me...
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