"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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She sends the signals but no date, the hell?

TheOnE111

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The majoirty of the signals i am given, but when i ask for a date she declines should i move on? I mean there are more gurls that like me but this one takes the cake.

2 things to point out tho

1. I told her i have a had a crush on her. Which i assume is the worst idea ever. But she seemed to be more open about her signals after i told her. o_0

2.When i told her i have a crush on her she hit me with "im kinda in that direction with someone right now" Is this chic tryn to run "game" on me?

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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Jestor

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TheOnE111 said:
The majoirty of the signals i am given, but when i ask for a date she declines should i move on? I mean there are more gurls that like me but this one takes the cake.

2 things to point out tho

1. I told her i have a had a crush on her. Which i assume is the worst idea ever. But she seemed to be more open about her signals after i told her. o_0

2.When i told her i have a crush on her she hit me with "im kinda in that direction with someone right now" Is this chic tryn to run "game" on me?

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It seems like she laid bait and you jumped on it too eagerly. It pays to play dumb in these instances until she really makes it obvious.
 

sadburger

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Move on. Don't tell a girl you have a "crush" on her. You are the prize, make her qualify to you.

If you move along and leave this chick alone, she will probably come back to you for more attention. Don't take the bait, next.
 

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Consider ganjiing her.

But yeah, like others said, you went about asking her out in a chumpish way. Signal your interest by some light flirting (possibly) and then just ask for her # (Actually, don't ask. Be more like, "Just give me your # and I'll call you) and/or invite her to somewhere specific right on the spot. None of this "I really like you" or "will you go out with me" or "I have a crush on you" crap. Get your act together and be just a tad bit smooth, dude.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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TheOnE111

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I've bein had her #. everything seems kool, even after i asked she was more fluent with her kino an sgnals then before. but w/e 2morro im goin out an gettin some #'s screw around an **** problem solved.
 
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