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I've been thinking about the following recently. I'm into self-development for quite some years and will probably always be. It takes, however, a bit of guessing into how much you should be changing yourself, without not losing self-acceptance. When I find an area that I want to improve, or I...

You're spot on. I do realize this will fade when I'm older. Any tips on getting to that place of feeling comfortable faster?

I started out as a typical nice guy, avoiding confrontation with people close to me, with strangers, and also with people working in the service industry who deserved a nice confrontation. Female or male, both got my best side - deserved or undeserved. Around a year ago I was going to a pretty...

Hey guys, I rarely meet women during day, so I'm mainly approaching girls during night when I'm out in a bar/club. I'm there after a couple of drinks with friends, all fun and good - however, in this environment it's all about fun and craziness. I often feel going a bit overtop because of the...

Have you ever tried reading some books on sex? Try "the sex god method" and/or "The multi-orgasmic man". Women are by nature submissive when they find a man who's dominant and they think they can trust.

What's up Don Juans? I've been noticing recurrent self-limiting beliefs in my mind. What are my self limiting beliefs? It's weird to talk to strangers when they don't show big signs they want to talk I'm a strange person in general. I'm pushing social limits because I'm bored with daily life...

As far as I'm reading nobody really agrees on a common thread, except for that the compliments have to be genuine. Apparently, you guys get both results with and without complimenting, giving me the following theory; It might all depend on who has the most perceived power in the "relationship"...

That makes sense. Can’t say I’m an AFC but can use some less neediness. I’ll give it a go to completely withhold compliments for the first couple of dates. Cheers man

Let’s talk compliments. When a compliment comes from a needy position for the girl’s validation it’s definitely a bad thing. How about when it’s genuine and you just want to share it with the girl? Is there a thing of overdoing it when it comes from a genuine position? (Falling in love after...

What most of you guys are saying here was my take on it as well. Just wanted to confirm I wasn’t missing something. Believe as long as it comes from a genuine position and not a needy position to “show” how awesome you are it should be alright.

Something isn’t clicking about being mysterious. Just going to throw out my thoughts and maybe some of you guys have some insights. I understand that some mystery keeps the girl guessing and that she’ll be more invested in you as she keeps trying to figure you out—she’s thinking about you and...

I just joined and the comments on my thread were fantastic, I was surprised about how much value the guys on this forum give. I do think most people like to learn and "teach", because through "teaching" people learn. Most people probably don't realize they're not in a position at all to give...

Dear Don Juans, Today I had an interesting insight. I'm a recovering nice guy who's now being kind of an ******* to compensate for his niceness. I was almost never bitter towards people--men and women--now I start to feel bitter to some. I realized this all has to do with who's judging who in...

Yup... It was me. The more I think about this situation the more I realize how needy I was and how much I was chasing her. Good learnings. I think it's actually a good thing she was so hot because it makes me reflect much more on how I lost her. Gonna take it all with me for next time!

YES, this is very much true. I know I'm sometimes a bit more of an ******* than I want to become at the end of the road. Thing is, I was never really an *******, so I feel I should lean into it a bit more than I want to be--to make myself comfortable with people thinking I'm a bit of a **** and...

Thanks for pointing that out. I was, however, never gonna let her decide which one of the two options. In my text, it was implied she would just have to say a "yes" or "no". Might still be a bit ambiguous now I think of it. Do you think it's still better to push your own ideas even if she might...

This is money! Makes total sense and should've just ignored her. I'm here since a couple of months. She's from Malaysia but studied abroad and has a quite international mindset, so I don't think her social norms are that much different. I guess it's just the way she is and nothing is gonna...

Update: Just put this girl in Anti-Dump's Machine and the machine goes: KKKKKKRRRRRRRRRR. Fvck, the machine grated her into a small meatball. As revenge for wasting my precious time I decided to eat her. Damnnn, revenge tastes good!

I'm trying to create hard boundaries and is probably the main reason why I created this thread. So whenever you feel disrespected, you dismiss it--you walk away? Are there times you would "fight" back? For me especially when other guys disrespect me, I will verbally fight back. I'm done with...

I'm actually a European living in Malaysia and am dismissing girls left and right, but I'm having a very difficult time to find one who's sexy, cool, and has some brains. Finding this is rare and lowered my criteria for other things... But like samspade said, "what's cool about her?" is spot...